Blushing & Red cheeks, what can a gentleman do?

mikemac

First off, I understand no medical advice can be asked for or given.
I've seen this type of thread in Personal Issues but you can't search there, now looking for advice.

Always had red face cheeks, am I alone here?

Particularly:

• In the office, under pressure with a deadline and manager on my back, I go bright red
• Cycling into work on a cold morning, I can accept this

I'm not pushed about the above too.
But even sitting here posting and watch Sunday Night American Football (Go Ravens!), I had the same issue.
Happens too if I tell a joke in the pub and make a point in a work meeting. Well able to speak up in different situations but I go red when people turn to look at me :o:o:o

So, am I alone? Any advice?
Saw a GP, they said something about blood capillaries (spelling?) close to the skin, nothing can be done at all.

Edit: Sorry mods, I just see we have a Men's Health forum. Maybe it's better there? I'm not sure, never posted there before, thank you

Fajitas!

I've the same - Always had red cheeks with a tendancy to get redder.

To be honest, the worst thing is being concious of it, there's nothing worse than knowing yer glowin'!

I don't know if there's much medically that can be done about it - I've heard of creams, but tbh, never looked into getting any of them. I've always just considered it something I was going to have to live with.

I have this problem too.
I think accepting that it happens, and just saying frig it! Instead of focusing on avoiding the feelings that cause it. Helps the most, because it rids you of the flustered blushes.


There is an operation, but I know that because an Irish woman died during one, A couple of years back.
So that wouldn't be on my to do list.

CDfm

A suggestion might be Green Tinted Moisturoiser -ask at the cosmetics of a chemists.

sogg

Someone told me before to squeeze my toes - works for me! It's something to do with making the blood rush there instead of to your face. Probably also helps cos it gives you something else to focus on besides the fact that everyone's looking at you!!

CDfm

Its a good idea.Anything that distracts you is good.

But I heard the moisturoiser thing works and a friend of mine uses it.

TequilaMockingBird

I find it nice if that helps.

Cocky gits don't blush.

Otis Driftwood

TequilaMockingBird wrote: »

I find it nice if that helps.

Cocky gits don't blush.

Skewed?:rolleyes:

Im far from cocky and I dont blush (unless its a very embarassing situation).

Nevyn

There is nothing more sincerne then a blush, it can not be faked.
Personally I think it's charming and not something to be mocked.

CDfm

But in a work place its not appropriate for a guy unless his zip is open:pac:

BumbleB

I blush too .I found that if you really become concious of it people will milk it to get a laugh .

The secret is to get out of your head and into the external world.Its just being overly self concious ,and caring what people think.

I found that the minute I start to blush I will often change the subject of conversation so fast ,people will have too readjust their thinking away from me and that gives me the breathing space to get back to normal.

SoupyNorman

I also get the dreaded blushes, and they happen in the strangest of situations. The most frustrating part about it is the GF, when it happens she starts saying "what are you going red for" which both draws further attention to it and makes me angry.

I just accept that it happens.


Recently we were in Tescos, a general shop was underway, among the various bits and pieces we also bought an 18pack of Durex extra safe and a bottle of Durex Play lube, thought nothing more of it. We get to the checkout, I notice that the checkout girl is hawt, scanning commences then I see two 12-13 year old girls starting to pack our bags (to raise money for a local community centre), alarm bells still had not rang yet. Next of all the checkout girl lifts a 6pack of Taytos to reveal the lube and rubbers, I felt a slight rise of panic as did she but I still kept a cool head...I told myself I'd just intercept the goods before the girls saw anything.

Sure what happens...arent the bloody condoms in the anti-theft box, checkout gurl has to use the de-tagger to release the condoms from the box...despite her best efforts the ruddy things wont come out, the two girls had well spotted this now and were giggling away, I tried to divert them with some inane chatter but the big red face on me was probably giving them a bigger laugh.


Sure that was that, nightmare.

~nop~

Very sad story a while back of a man who died undergoing surgery for the same issue, was a lawyer in the States and kept blushing in the middle of presenting cases.

Green-tinted moisturiser though, brilliant idea!

Smallbit

I really do find it cute! My boyfriend nearly went purple when he first asked me out. As Thaedydal said already, you can't fake that sort of sincerity!!

I'd rather a blushing stuttered invite for a drink than an oily well rehearsed cool approach...

CDfm

Smallbit wrote: »

I really do find it cute!

I'd rather a blushing stuttered invite for a drink than an oily well rehearsed cool approach...

Whats cute in personnal life is embaressing in work.

Really I don't think lots of people notice and you need to ignore it yourself a bit.

CDfm

SoupyNorman wrote: »

I also get the dreaded blushes, and they happen in the strangest of situations. The most frustrating part about it is the GF, when it happens she starts saying "what are you going red for" which both draws further attention to it and makes me angry.

A suggestion - just whisper in her ear that you would like her to go to the toilets or dressing room for sex.Ive heard that works with blushes and causes a great rush of blood away from the face

Khannie

If it's rosacea that's causing it you can get non-invasive laser work done at a decent cosmetic place. My wife got it done. Made a big difference to her. Worth checking out anyway.