Flatmate - what to do??

nickersop

I don't know if I'm being silly so I decide to throw it out to the public!I moved in with a girl that I also work with, We didn't really know eachother but both of us were looking to rent with someone, I thought she was great fun and i thought thats what I need!from day1 i have been so fair but I feel I'm been taken for a eegit!I told her she could have the bigger room with Ntl connection and en suite and double wardrobe space! but I didnt mind it to be honest!Then there was food going missing that I had bought, then there was clothes being worn and I caught her a few times and she nearly died which means she is in my room going through my stuff, I have been handed post thats been opened and then stuck back down. She constantly uses my internet and my laptop. My boyfriend hates her now because of the last incident I decided that I have a few drinks with her in the apartment, she had had a terrible day and had a fight with her boyfriend, I felt sorry for her and text her saying why dont we have a few tonight? I had one glass and before i knew it three bottles were empty and I had 1 glass, I thought best to head to bed as she was in work next morning, she couldn't stand up straight and then grabbed my arm and proceeded to tell me that she knew everyone was talking about her in work, I had no idea what she was talking about and grabbed my arm back she turned really vicious and I do realise that it was drink talking..it did scare me, I went into my room and burst out crying, she slammed doors around and the next morn I got a text apologising that she was so drunk and doesn't remember going to bed, My boyfriend left his wallet on the bed..20euro taken out of it that night gone when he picked it up next morn, The thing is this girl is not short of a few bob at all!!It doesn't make sense!Since then I have kept my distance as I have seen a side I don't like, She has been out with work collegues since and they all say the same - with drink she is a different person. Half the things that have gone on I'm not even going to go into but it's been hard, I moved a couch the other day because I could get a better reception from the tv as our tv had broken waiting for ntl to come I bought an aerial just so I could watch x factor to keep me sane!The next day another row with her boyfriend she got out the rubber gloves and started scrubbing the apartment - which was already clean!Told my boyf who was studying in my room that the place was filthy and told him MY bathroom was a disgrace!He didn't know how to respond but so embarrassed and now he is uncomfortable in my apartment!!!


I don't know if I'm the one with the problem and over exaggerating or would other people react to this??

Let me know!!

Sleepeee

There's not many of them out there, but some people are plain crazy.

And she is one of them!!

How level headed is she in the day? Would it be worth sitting her down to have an adult chat - say she makes you uncomfortable when she is drinking? See from her reaction if she is aware she has a problem. It might make her cop on and get help. I get the impression that she will begin to drive you mad if something doesn't happen.

I'd suggest making your excuses to move out again then. Say you want to live closer to, I dunno, the airport, your boyfriend etc..

You shouldn't feel uncomfortable in your own home.

helimachoptor

Get a lock for you room or move out!

clones1980

Hi Op

I really feel for you.

Single White Female springs to mind here when i read your post. I think i would be asking her to find somewhere else to live. How dare she, the bloody cheek of her going through your post and room. Id be on to the landlord prompto and telling him you cant live with a bunny boiler. Have you anywhere else maybe you could live, with you bf perhaps?

Victor

nickersop wrote: »

and told him MY bathroom was a disgrace!

Do you mean the main, shared bathroom?

Boundaries need to be set. She doesn't seem to know hers.

How Strange

Is moving out an option?
Or getting her to move out?
If not, get a lock for your room and keep it locked.
As hard as it might be (I'm sometimes a total wimp in these scenarios myself but enough is enough) tell her out straight what's bugging you.
I'd be careful about saying anything about money going missing because without proof it's your word against hers but you should confront her about the other stuff.