Seeing a guy who has broken up recently

confused19

Hello everyone! I really need your help to understand what i should do in my situation!
I met this guy and I really liked him, we started seeing each other, but he told me that he is very busy as he has his own business. Later he told me that he has just broken up with someone about 5 months ago and he was in a relationship with this girl for 4 years. He said that he would go back to her if there would be a chance. He said that we can carry on seeing each other and see how it goes but only if it is 'fun and simple' because life is just too much for him at the moment. So we have seen each other a couple of times after that conversation and were planning to go away for a weekend, then he texted saying that he is not sure about going away because he is very busy andhas a lot to do that weekend, i said fine and asked how he was, and he did not reply. It has been now fives days since and he did not call or text. I don't know what to do! Is it really because he is busy or he is just too upset about his break up?
Shall I forget about him and move on or try to contact him again? I am really looking forward to your advice as really do not know what to do.

magneticimpulse

hi
it sounds bad that he has not said anything, 5 days is quite a bit for no contact. after reading many threads here, i think 4 years is a long time to date someone and 5 months, he might have felt ready to date, but realises he needs more time. he seemed honest about his situation which is great. for that reason i wouldnt rush into anything else just yet. he might need more time before he calls you again. if then in a week he doesnt contact you still, i would figure that he chickened out and didnt want to hurt you. he seems like he could be in a place of hurt himself and doesnt want to put that upon you.

I don't think 5 months is 'recently', even for a longish relationship. It's quite a while , IMO. However, the fact he's said he'd go back to her if he had a chance says it all.