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I don't know how to feel

  • 26-11-2009 8:32pm
    #1
    flaps2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34 ✭


    Hi all,

    Just trying to get a bit of advice here.
    I've been going out with this girl for four months now, and i love her to bits, but last saturday night she was out and she kissed another fella and that was it. I found out about it on tuesday and she told me herself that day...she said she didn't tell me before because she didn't want to hurt me anymore....because she broke up with on the sunday....i was gutted and she cited being to busy in college for the break up..but i knew there was something more but didn't question it..she said she still loves me and swears it will never happen again and i tend to believe her....i still love her to bits and want to be able to trust her....i'm all for the belief that we all make mistakes and giving people second chances but not third ones...

    I suppose i'm wondering what people would do in this situation..

    Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    If we could actually read what happened it would help....

    1) going out with this girl for four months now
    2) "last saturday night she was out and she kissed another fella"
    3) "because she broke up with on the sunday" ..... [ she broke up with you, yes ? On Sunday - the day after the snog ? ] ...
    4) she cited being to busy in college for the break up [ but ] i knew there was something more
    5) she said she still loves me and swears it will never happen again and i tend to believe her

    Has she said that she wants to get back together with you ? Because I would give her a chance if I've read the above right; she got carried away and snogged someone else, then realised how disrespectful that was to you, and proceeded to break up rather than telling you and letting you decide, and also thinking "hey, I mustn't love him if I did that".

    If she wants to get back, and you're OK with what she did, then give it a go. I would lay it on the line that this is her "one chance", though, and maybe leave it a week or two so that ye're not diving back in solely because of the emotional roller-coaster.

    Best of luck!


  • #3
    unhappycamper
    Closed Accounts Posts: 302 ✭✭unhappycamper


    I think you should tell her you would like to take some time to yourself for a while and explain to her that you never taught something like this was going to happen and that you are shocked about it and left feeling a little stupid. Tell her you will meet up with her in a month and have a chat about everything then (in other words)

    Let her know that you are not going to accept this and that even this early on you are considering ending things. Then enjoy your freedom for a bit and ask her out for a drink and see what comes of it, but be cool and dont just 'accept it' like a wuss.


  • #4
    flaps2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34 ✭flaps2008


    Sorry about the typing, but u got the jist of it
    Thanks


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