Getting Used to Living Alone

LegacyUser

i'm 32 and living alone for the first time ever. i always lived with people (family of course and then partners) so i'm finding it difficult adjusting to not sharing a home with someone. I have my own place and i love it as I don't think i'd like to house share or anything like that. i do like my own space and privacy.

I've always been fine in my own company and enjoyed it and never felt lonely but sometimes I do feel a bit lonely now and I don't like that feeling. I want to become more self reliant and independent (as I never really was before) so I'm just wondering will i get better at living alone or does anyone have any insights or anything like that to avoid feeling 'lonely'.
will i get used to it in time?

LegacyUser

Yes you will. And you'll probably get to love it. I lived alone for a good few years between relationships. It was terrifying at first, I'd jump at every creek in the night but then I relaised how great it was to have friends over and make a mess anytime you wanted and be as eccentric as you want! Give it time, after a few months you'll hardly notice you're alone. And this is probably just a short term situation anyway so enjoy it.

xstarz 2kaii9x

you could always buy a puppy!!:D they're alot of company!!

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xstarz 2kaii9x wrote: »

you could always buy a puppy!!:D they're alot of company!!

This is great advice, as long as you have the time for it.

LegacyUser

Im the same as you Op I just moved out on my own and I hate it, I hate the thoughts of going home to an empty house and so on but Im going to stick it out as a friend of mine was the same 2 years ago when she moved out but I see her now and she loves it, So Im quite positive in thinking we will too get used to it,

krudler

I loved it any time I've been on my own for a few weeks, knowing you dont have to come home to someone elses mess or have to listen to anyone else for days at a time is bliss to me, plus you can walk around naked lol lets be honest who doesnt do that when they have place to themselves

ash23

I had never lived alone until about 18 months ago. It did take some getting used to (now, having said that, I have a 6 year old so I wasn't totally alone).
The noises at night, the empty bed, the no adult conversation.

It took a few months but now I love it. I can watch what I want, only myself (and the kiddo) to clean up after, I can cook what I want etc etc.

I'd struggle to get used to living with someone again.

It gets easier.

Also, the nights that are lonely, I tend to phone someone or pop over to a friends. If I have someone staying or have a few nights over in friends/with family, I'm dying to just spend a nice quiet evening alone.
I really like my own company now.

PixelTrawler

Im 32 and live on my own and I love it.

Just keep yourself busy. Plus if you are only recently living on your own, youll get used to it pretty quick.

herya

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This is great advice, as long as you have the time for it.

Or a cat if not two, they keep each other company and are great pets to you.

SarahSassy

xstarz 2kaii9x wrote: »

you could always buy a puppy!!:D they're alot of company!!

And a HUGE amount of work.... We got one recently and I really struggle to manage him when on my own. OP, dont get a pup yet. Get out and about when you feel lonely - you would not be able to to that with a pup

xstarz 2kaii9x

well if you dont have time for a puppy you could always get a dog or cat from your nearest anima shelter! a older dog isn't as much workas a puppy as you must train them and you would be doing omething nice!:)

Skinfull

lifealone wrote: »

i'm 32 and living alone for the first time ever. i always lived with people (family of course and then partners) so i'm finding it difficult adjusting to not sharing a home with someone. I have my own place and i love it as I don't think i'd like to house share or anything like that. i do like my own space and privacy.

I've always been fine in my own company and enjoyed it and never felt lonely but sometimes I do feel a bit lonely now and I don't like that feeling. I want to become more self reliant and independent (as I never really was before) so I'm just wondering will i get better at living alone or does anyone have any insights or anything like that to avoid feeling 'lonely'.
will i get used to it in time?

I'm in this boat too. Its strange, very strange. Some days are brilliant and some days arent. The lack of converstion for me is the hardest thing to handle. Dont mind the meals for one, the noises at night etc but the lack of conversation some days is killer. Plus..I've been laid off too so some days I dont leave the house. I never do a weekly shop any more...I stretch it out to a few small trips to the store instead.
Keep busy = Keep sane

LegacyUser

OP here. many thanks for the replies.

I do have a dog and he's great company but sometimes you need the human kind.

I'm not fearful at all as I don't watch anything scary on tv or anything so thats not an issue.
i think its just gonna take some time and the key for me is getting out at the w-end.
i've no money at all but i get very miserable if i'm at home for a lot of the w-end.

I don't even mind going home to an empty house. that would never occur to me so even from that i'd say i'll get used to it and i hope i'll love it then !!