Make-a-move phobia

neversuitedher

Somebody slap me please.

Met a guy few months ago, definitally flirting, chemisty... i did'nt want to start anything so was a bit cold and did'nt except when he asked me out many times (totally regret it now). Did'nt see him for a while, but it made me miss him and wish i had of gone out with him in the first place.

He text me a few weeks ago to go out, i was working and could'nt go, said i might be going out the next evening, he repyled if i was going out to text him. The next night got already to go out, but then was too nervous to text him! (I'm a complete idiot!!) Told myself it was far to late to text him (this was at 10 that night)

Guess im terrified of rejection or something, he did'nt text me that night as the ball was clearly in my court after all the chasing he had done. But i just feel like a total idiot now. Why oh why did i just not press send!

Hav'nt spoken to him in a week now, guess at this stage its hopeless.:( And lucky for him he must think im a right head recker!!

How can i get over my self, im really shy, but i feel like a total b!tch for messing this guy about, like i know he likes me yet im still afraid of being rejected? I know i must sound rediculous.

Is there anyway of me fixing this. I do really like him, its just i dont know how to initiate things like from the start its always been him texting me first, asking me out, ect. The poor guy must be sick of all this at this stage.
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Liam Byrne

neversuitedher wrote: »

Hav'nt spoken to him in a week now, guess at this stage its hopeless.:(

You don't know this.

neversuitedher wrote: »

Is there anyway of me fixing this. I do really like him, its just i dont know how to initiate things like from the start its always been him texting me first, asking me out, ect.

Text - or call - him.

G-Money

It's understandable that you are shy and while it might not be hopeless, I would be very very surprised if he asks you out again. I know I wouldn't and I don't think many other guys would either. There's a time to be persistent and a time to just give up and let it go. I'd say he's heading for the latter.

Your choices are either to ask him out, or sit there and wish you had and regret it for the rest of your life. Especially when you see him off out with some other girl. That way you can sit there and wish it was you. Doesn't that sound appealing? How can you resist that? In fact, I bet he will most likely meet someone else this weekend, if not before then. Ah well, sure it's too late now.

Or is it????

Hope that give you the kick up the ass you need to text/call him

LegacyUser

Text or call him saying that you never ended up going out that night but that you're now going out on xx night if he'd like to meet you.

Dont leave your shyness ruin what could be something good. That first text/call will be the hardest and it will get easier after that.

ManOfMystery

I thought it would be worth mentioning also, you shouldn't really have too bad a case of the nerves. It's obvious this guy is into you, and he's already done some chasing. Most people who ask someone out have no idea if the person will say yes or no, but I don't think you'll have that dilemma.... just relax, drop him a text and let things happen naturally!

opinion guy

Just text him!!

He'll probably be a delighted to hear from you. A week is not long in the context you gave - people get busy with work etc etc. Arrange to meet him for a drink or something! Enjoy ! It will be fun!

neversuitedher

Thanks for the replys guys, I'm going to a party Sunday so I thinks its the perfect reason to text him;) Hope it works out and he isnt sick of me!

CDfm

If you are really shy why not ask him to call for you or even suggest meeting up saturday for lunch or coffee.

Calling is better.

Just a thought.

neversuitedher

OP here, Ok, so I text him yesterday and asked him to come to the party, he said yes and that he would be up later. So I was delighted and kept expecting him to walk in the door... to my dissapointment. He didnt show up or even text to say he wouldnt. He text me tonight asking...

"Hows you today"
I said i was fine, and asked where he got to.
He said he went to a session in his friends and didnt get home untill 6.
I told him i went back to mine around 4 with a few people after the party...
He said i should have called him.
I explained that it was pretty late to text him to which he replyed call me next time.
That was it.

Guess he's not intrested or, i dont know maybe trying to play me at my own "game".

Any ideas of what to do next, I'm so confussed

Liam Byrne

neversuitedher wrote: »

He said i should have called him.

Tough call. You can choose to take the above at face value, or you can sit back and see if he contacts you.

CDfm

He said call -so call is what you do.

kjl

Just ring him next time you are out

Monkey61

Okay this is definitely worth one more shot.

Chances are he was out with his friends,told them that you had invited him to the party and they probably said "Ah why should you go running again now the one time she's asked you to do something?" and convinced him to play you at your own game so to speak.

I think you have two options. Either ask him out to do something, just the two of you rather than a "Oh I'll be at such and such later on if you want to drop by" or do exactly as he suggested and actually call him the next time you are out.

It is obvious that he likes you but you will probably have to work for it a bit now after messing him around already. Go for it though!!

neversuitedher

Monkey61 wrote: »

Okay this is definitely worth one more shot.

Chances are he was out with his friends,told them that you had invited him to the party and they probably said "Ah why should you go running again now the one time she's asked you to do something?" and convinced him to play you at your own game so to speak.

I think you have two options. Either ask him out to do something, just the two of you rather than a "Oh I'll be at such and such later on if you want to drop by" or do exactly as he suggested and actually call him the next time you are out.

It is obvious that he likes you but you will probably have to work for it a bit now after messing him around already. Go for it though!!

Thanks for that, think thats probably what happened alright. I was just a bit suprised when he said to me the next day that i should have text/called him to come up at 4. When he had already agreed to go to the party, then was a no show. I aslo told him I would be having a after-party that he could come to. He knows my friends so it wouldnt be like he would be on his own at all. He seemed up for it, but then he didnt show with no explanation and implying it was my fault that I didnt call him to come up at 4 in the morning! HA. I know he was out with his mates at around 9/10 so id say they talked him out of it. Going out Friday so I might give it one more try.
Cheers for the replys!