My GF wants to go everywhere with me

Kid Curry

Does anyone else have this problem? My GF wants to go everywhere with me all the time. For example, if Im going to meet someone i havent seen in a long time she wants to come along. She doesn't understand why I dont want to bring her but it's just that we would be talking about old times or people we knew. She just wouldnt be in on the conversation and she may get snotty because we didnt include her or else you have to explain everything and the fact that she's foreign she doesnt understand why fellas and girls dont really socialise together over here.

It's getting to a stage that if I want to go out without her it's a bit of an ordeal having to explain the why, what and where when all your simply doing is leaving her company for a few hours. If it was an Irish bird you just tell them your meeting an old friend and they dont bat an eyelid where as my missus is foreign latino and doesnt really have any friends here so her whole life tend to revolve around me plus the fact she's now pregnant doesnt help but in fairness she's always been like that anyway.

Am I being unreasonable?

Madame Razz

Sounds like she's the unreasonable one tbh.

In fairness; how long have you been together?? Surely you should have addressed this from very early on?? Doing it now whilst she is pregnant is hardly opportune; and once the baby comes along that will cull your free time also.

You've possibly missed the boat in terms of discussing this issue and resolving to do different in future tbh Kid Curry; your life is going to be unrecognisable anyway in less than 9 months.

Kid Curry

Together about 3 years. I guess your right.:(

LegacyUser

Sounds like shes feeling insecure, and you're sounding like you feel a bit fed up. Bring it up with her but expect her to be emotional and hormonal. You didn't pick the best time for this. She could be thinking that you dont want her around and that she'll be left alone with the baby all the time. Explain it as you've done here.

Are your friends in relationships. Can you organise couples nights out. Where the other partners can keep her busy, while you catch up with mates
Or maybe you can try make friends as a couple, to socialise with.
Then she might not feel so lonely when you go off with your own friends.

Nigel Farage

You need to be firm with her. This isn't an acceptable situation as it exists, it's clearly bothering you greatly. If she loves you then there is nothing ye can't talk about together and get through.

Meemars

Kid Curry wrote: »

fellas and girls dont really socialise together over here.

They DON'T?????? You mean I've been doing it wrong all this time? :eek:

Herbal Deity

Kid Curry wrote: »

fellas and girls dont really socialise together over here.

What?

JohnnyCrash

Kid Curry,sounds to me like she doesnt trust you.

Emme

Kid Curry wrote: »

... the fact that she's foreign she doesnt understand why fellas and girls dont really socialise together over here

Interesting but she's right. For years the cailini and the buachailli needed the matchmaker to get them together, then during the 1950s it was the Ballroom of No Chance (sorry, Ballroom of Romance). If Irish fellas and girls did socialise together a bit more they mightn't have the contempt for each other that comes across on the boards.

Back to the OP - if your GF is pregnant she might be feeling a bit vulnerable and in need of reassurance. When is she due? Maybe she's afraid she'll go into labour and you'll be off somewhere. Anyway, treat her with care, she's expecting your baby! If you let her know she can trust you she won't have a problem with you going off to see your mates.

tbh

Kid Curry wrote: »

Does anyone else have this problem? My GF wants to go everywhere with me all the time. For example, if Im going to meet someone i havent seen in a long time she wants to come along. She doesn't understand why I dont want to bring her but it's just that we would be talking about old times or people we knew. She just wouldnt be in on the conversation and she may get snotty because we didnt include her or else you have to explain everything and the fact that she's foreign she doesnt understand why fellas and girls dont really socialise together over here.

It's getting to a stage that if I want to go out without her it's a bit of an ordeal having to explain the why, what and where when all your simply doing is leaving her company for a few hours. If it was an Irish bird you just tell them your meeting an old friend and they dont bat an eyelid where as my missus is foreign latino and doesnt really have any friends here so her whole life tend to revolve around me plus the fact she's now pregnant doesnt help but in fairness she's always been like that anyway.

Am I being unreasonable?

you're not being unreasonable for wanting it, but you are being unreasonable if you haven't said to her what you just posted above. and if you have said to her what you've posted above, and she's still the same, you're being unreasonable for assuming she's going to change.

L31mr0d

Kid Curry wrote: »

doesnt really have any friends here

That's your problem right there. I'm betting as well she has no personal hobbies either (well none that are possible while she is pregnant). For some women, their man is their hobby. Dressing them, preening them, watching them, trying to iron out their bad habits, following them around... etc. I'm guessing if your OH has no real female friends she associates with and has no real hobbies to pass the time that time spent without you around is boring.

Encourage her personal interests. Find out what she was interested in before you started dating and actively encourage it. Not only will she feel better in herself, she will also have something to do while you want to head off on your own. Note, the inverse affect of this is that when you want to spend time with her, she might not be able to make the time for you.