Unsure what to do over girlfriend

LegacyUser

I met this girl at the end of this summer (in the pub) we hit it off ok, things progressed and we started going out, I knew I didn't feel as strongly about her as much as some of my exs but she's a really nice girl and we got along very well. I suppose there's no huge spark between us although I know we really care about each other.
Things were going along pretty well, we met the parents etc. and for the last 3 months or so we've been seeing a lot of each other. It's all been pleasant.

My problem is that last week I met someone I hadn't seen in about 6 or 7 years, even back then I'd only met her once or twice, nothing ever happened, just met in social circumstances. I'd always fancied her and admired her personality and way.
In the following years, I became a lot more outgoing and confident, If I had been more confident back then I would have maybe done something, but I didn't.
Anyhow, last week we met again and after talking over a few drinks got to know each other and had hours of chatting, we really seemed to get each other, there was some kissing but although she's very attractive, it wasn't a sexually motivated sort of thing (dunno if that even makes sense).

Anyway, a few days later we met up at her house, just to chat. We both acknowledged that whatever happened that night wasn't fair on my girlfriend, we talked and talked all day and I was relieved that it wasn't just the drink that last night that kept the conversation going.

Now my dilemma:

Is this new girl my wake up call that all is not well in my current relationship, or is it just hormones getting in the way. I'm reasonably happy with this girl, but I've ended a long term relationship before because there was no real chemistry.
Just writing all this down has helped, any opinions/questions/criticism welcome.

Wurly

headwrecked! wrote: »

Is this new girl my wake up call that all is not well in my current relationship, or is it just hormones getting in the way. I'm reasonably happy with this girl, but I've ended a long term relationship before because there was no real chemistry.
Just writing all this down has helped, any opinions/questions/criticism welcome.

Yes - a wake up call of sorts. You explained earlier in your post that the relationship is pretty much ok but nothing special.

So un-special in fact - you kissed someone else. Might happen again maybe?

Can I respectfully suggest that you break up with your girl? You don't feel as strongly for her and you have now kissed someone else behind her back. She deserves more than this. Set her free so she can find it.

Also - for yourself. Don't you deserve to be in something with real chemistry?

Lollipops23

OP sometimes it takes something unexpected and leftfield to make you realise what you're missing.

You say you're "reasonably happy" with your gf...the passion in those words isn't exactly overwhelming!!

Even if nothing happens with this other girl, you're better off alone than with someone you don't have chemistry with. You'll end up hurting her more in the long run.

LegacyUser

Thanks, you're confirming what I know deep down.