My date is wealthy but i am broke

LegacyUser

Hi all, going anon for this, ive been single for over a year and a half now and ive met this girl online that i like, weve been texting for ages now and are going to meet up anyday now, the thing is shes pretty successful and young, huge new house, huge new car etc, im young too but unemployed and nothing major on the horizon for some time yet im afraid. This is pretty intimidating but i just need some help about how to mangage the first date, keeping up conversation and controlling my stress! ive been single a while now and kinda out of the loop, were both 26 too if it helps with advice.

Anna Molly

Pfft,
I don't think it should really matter.
As long as you're able to treat her, take her out occasionally.
Social class and all that is **** if you ask me.

CDfm

Does she know this about you -how long has it been since you had a job ?

LegacyUser

Maybe so, i hope so anyway because ive been totally honest with her about everything about me, their no point telling nonsense, she knows how long ive been unemployed too, its just i still feel alot of anxiety over our first date, were from totally different backgrounds. does anyone have any first date advice for the unemployed guy whos nervous about his date to a wealthy girl? i need advice on relaxing so i dont overthink the conversation and talk rubbish, or not talk at all! thanks!

The_B_Man

just dont act like you're below her, and i dunno, maybe say you intend on doing a night course to upskill or something. try avoid talking about being broke with no prospects.

Anna Molly

The_B_Man wrote: »

just dont act like you're below her, and i dunno, maybe say you intend on doing a night course to upskill or something. try avoid talking about being broke with no prospects.

Ha that made me laugh.

Yeah, don't talk about being broke all the time.
It's really annoying.
There's absolutely nothing more annoying than a person wittering on about how bad their life is etc.
I am very tolerant!:rolleyes:
Just be yourself

How Soon Is Now

Who cares how much money any one has end day its how ya treat people not how much money you have to throw around.

I am used to most women i have been with having no jobs feck all money and being the one who works and has the money it will not make a difference unless she wants to make a big deal about it.

Just be yourself cause weather you have money or not should not change your personalty.

CDfm

HappyButAnxious wrote: »

Maybe so, i hope so anyway because ive been totally honest with her about everything about me, their no point telling nonsense, she knows how long ive been unemployed too, its just i still feel alot of anxiety over our first date, were from totally different backgrounds. does anyone have any first date advice for the unemployed guy whos nervous about his date to a wealthy girl? i need advice on relaxing so i dont overthink the conversation and talk rubbish, or not talk at all! thanks!

So where do you plan on meeting up - if you go to a gallery like IMMA or the national gallery which is free you can talk about the "art" and the building.When is the date?

People like talking about themselves, so compliment her on her clothes jewellery etc. So you dont have to lead -you have one mouth and 2 ears so use them in proportion.

Dont mention things like politics or government. Overpaid civil servants - if her pa is a Civil servant is a red rag. In case you havent noticed there is a recession on and lots of people are hurting financially. Not just you.

Do you have mutual interests and if so what are they.

SarahSassy

Why do you think you wont get a job soon? My brother has gotten 2 since he was let go in May. There are jobs out there but he was online 24/7 trying to find one and would have taken anything to keep himself off benefits. I would not have an issue if someone was recently made unemployed but if he was not trying to find a job I would have...

bangersandmash

Since you haven't actually met, there is the possibility that she's exaggerating a little (or at least putting a good spin on her situation) in an attempt to impress you. She might not realise that this is not having the desired effect.

LegacyUser

I could tell you I have a nice car, a good job and live in a fab apartment. It would also all be true. But what I didn't mention is I have a good bit of debt, my apartment is rented and car isn't yet paid for. Just something to think about.

Honestly unless someone is a self declared "dole head" who gloats at that fact that they never intend getting a job I don't think it should make a difference if you really care about the person. There's a big difference between people who are out of work and people who don't want to work.

If it does come up in coversation try to put a light spin on it, tell her being a recessionista is in right now.