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Down in the dumps

  • 23-11-2009 10:06pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hard to know where to begin here. I'm just incredibly down about a couple of things and don't know where to look for light at the end of the tunnel.

    Firstly the person who was my best friend (and possibly who I've major feelings for) no longer wants to know me. I haven't seen her since the start of the summer due to work and her moving to Galway for college. We'd been besties for a few years and when no one else was really pushed I was always there for her. Contact got increasingly rare from her side. It climaxed at a point where she was having a going away party and I found out the next day through facebook pictures. After that I just tried to deal with it and try not to think too much about her but it had gone on too long so I tried to contact her, straight out asking her what happened. She plainly said that we'd grown apart. She didn't respond to my queries about the going away party either, she's now attempted to turn it on me by saying I hadn't contacted her in ages (Complete rubbish although I ceased with good reason after the party incident)
    I did everything for this girl, even time off work to help her with study for her Leaving Cert and now it's like I never existed at all.

    I've got literally 4 or 5 friends now, none of them I could really tell any of this in depth to either, not those kind of friends. My college associates ridicule me at every chance even though I try my best to fit in, there were some events last week at a house party that have tarnished my class reputation probably beyond repair. I literally feel rejected everywhere outside my household (I'm fortunate enough to have loving parents), my social life is in tatters, my emotions are stressed, my confidence is at an all time low and I don't know how to handle this anymore.

    I know this all may seem melodramatic but I needed to let this out somewhere. Any feedback is much appreciated.


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  • #2
    cafecolour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭cafecolour


    It's unfortunate that it went badly with your friend, but TBH, if you have feelings for her, you are better off not hanging out anymore. Being friends with someone you're mad for who doesn't return it is not fun and not healthy.

    Why do your college associates 'ridicule' you? And I doubt you did anything to damage your class rep beyond repair, people do stupid stuff when drunk all the time.

    Work on your self-esteem and find a new circle of friends. Join a club or something, maybe if you get a new hobby that you improve at, it can work on both of those issues.


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