My snoring partner, I may go

LegacyUser

Hi. I write this with tired eyes.

My partner of 2years snores. I haven't slept properly in all of 2 years, you'd think I was used to it by now. Ear plugs don't work, getting him to use sprays, rings, attachments, all the anti-snoring aids on the market we have tried. It always wakes me up, no matter how tired I am.....

He won't see a doctor, insisting that since he had his tonsils out it's been like this.

But I am at the end of my tether, I am tired and frustrated. And I want rest.

I hate to say it but if this keeps up we'll be moving to a 2bed because I don't want to live like this anymore.

How can I deal with this? I don't want to leave him but I don't want this anymore. I can't sleep it's just not fair on my brain and on him who has to put up with my grumpy attitude..

dublingal80

talk to him again about it. he obviously doesnt realise you are at lose ends with him and he has to see this!! if it means you sitting there crying or screaming, it just shows how you are about to lose it since you need sleep!

a friend of mine oh is the same. he is extremely loud at snoring and she has to move into the spare bedroom to get some sleep.

I think people that snore obviously dont know they are doing it, so they dont see it as a big problem because it doesnt wake them up. Talk to him about it. Tell him that you cant take it any more, you havent slept in a long long time and the only options you can come up with is see a doctor, moving apartmetns or leaving, which you obviouly dont want to do the latter. Beg him to see a doctor. hopefully he will see how much it means to you and how much it is upsetting you so he will

Bottle_of_Smoke

Maybe force the doctor issue but if he's tried everything he could be right that it wont do anything.

Go for a two bed. Sleep's important. It's not unreasonable of you to want it!

finbarrk

And make sure you keep the main bedroom for yourself.
Record him sometime and play it back for him if he doesn't want to move to another room.

jazzlewazzle

you should be able to talk about this and come up with a solution...

see the doc - if he is against this they what would he be like if he had a real health prob...

men need to get over the hurdle of being afraid to go see a doc...

John Mason

My OH sounds like a tractor when he sleeps

i use earplugs and it works great for me but also we have seperate bedrooms, which works even better.

i think our relationship is so strong because we have seperate rooms and we both get a great nights sleep, no arguing about who had robbed the duvet and who is starfish sleeping. i cant recommend it hightly enough.

jazzlewazzle

irishbird wrote: »

My OH sounds like a tractor when he sleeps

i use earplugs and it works great for me but also we have seperate bedrooms, which works even better.

i think our relationship is so strong because we have seperate rooms and we both get a great nights sleep, no arguing about who had robbed the duvet and who is starfish sleeping. i cant recommend it hightly enough.

read recently that this is a good idea and a lot of people are doing it esp in more long term relationships/married couples..

LostinBlanch

Well, if you could get him to a doctor then this fella sounds like the one.

Otherwise, take IBs advice.

Best of luck with it.

Geri Boyle

When he starts to snore, wake him and ask him to tilt his head upwards as much as is comfortable. This stops the tongue from falling to the back of the throat which causes him to snore. It works better if he sleeps on his side so he doesnt have his head back as such so is more comfortable for him. Its the only thing that works for my boyf!

Xterminator

i personally snored for years. my wife discovered ear plugs are the only solution that worked for us.

listen, until very recently it was not unusual to have separate beds, and even separate rooms (if you have a spare room). It doesnt mean your relationship has broken down. In fact it may be the best thing for your relationship.

George hook waxes lyrical about having his own room, on the radio, and being bale to watch late nite tv without feeling guilty etc.

ibarelycare

irishbird wrote: »

My OH sounds like a tractor when he sleeps

i use earplugs and it works great for me but also we have seperate bedrooms, which works even better.

i think our relationship is so strong because we have seperate rooms and we both get a great nights sleep, no arguing about who had robbed the duvet and who is starfish sleeping. i cant recommend it hightly enough.

Where's the romance in that?!! My bf snores but I'd hate the thought of having to sleep in separate rooms Deciding whose bed you're going to have sex in then going into seperate beds afterwards doesn't appeal to me....and what happens if you want to turn over for snuggles in the middle of the night!!?

OP what's your OH's lifestyle like? Is he overweight? Does he drink much alcohol? Have a bad diet? These can all be contributing factors in his snoring. You really need to put your foot down and make him go to the doctor. Not fair on you at all.

Persiancowboy

Hi op.

I'm afraid i'm another of those snorers. I have raised this issue with my GP on a number of occasions. He is one of the most practical and down to earth individuals I have ever met and he assures me that NONE of the so-called "cures" for snoring actually work. they are all basically placebos. I also asked about a referral to one of the sleep clinics in some of the Dublin hospitals. He reckons they will not deal with snoring issues unless it is linked to sleep apnoea. His strong advice on "treating" snoring is for the individual to lose weight and get regular exercise.

I am not overweight myself and do try exercise but I still snore. My OH does her best to ensure I don't sleep on my back but when it does get too loud an elbow in the ribs normally stops me...

John Mason

ibarelycare wrote: »

Where's the romance in that?!! My bf snores but I'd hate the thought of having to sleep in separate rooms Deciding whose bed you're going to have sex in then going into seperate beds afterwards doesn't appeal to me....and what happens if you want to turn over for snuggles in the middle of the night!!?

there are plenty more places to have sex then the bedroom

when he sleeps in with me, i wear earplugs but i dont sleep well, i spend most of the night wrestling for some duvet or being pushed out of bed.

it works really well for us, it might not work for everyone. we go to bed at different times, get up at different times, i like listening to the radio going to bed, he doesnt.

dont knock till you have tried it

Geri Boyle

Honestly my suggestion really works. We tried everything from earplugs to nose strips to throat sprays to everything all together. You can test it yourself by bending your head down, make that snoring noise at the back of your throat while slowly lifting your head til youre looking at the ceiling. See how much harder it is to snore like that? Its simple but genius.

LegacyUser

He really needs to be checked out for sleep apnoea. This can have serious effects on him during his waking day as well as on you at night. The treatment is very effective and simple. Try this link: http://www.irishhealth.com/article.html?con=370