Friends with the girl you love - another one!

LegacyUser

Hi

would really appreciate peoples advice here. so, i met a girl at the start of the year who i really liked from the first moment we met. we ended up kissing on a good few occasions, were txting for a while, and were then seeing each other for about two months, not going out though. over that time i really started to like her more and more. we'd speak for hours on end almost every day. so i raised the topic of going out and she said she didnt want a boyfriend, and that we should see other people. that was really heartbreaking for me as i was just so mad about her at that stage, but she still wanted to be friends, as during all that time we were as good as best friends. that was about three months ago.

since then, we have been with each other again a considerable number of times, but still remain as friends, albeit best friends. i've reached the stage that, as we are doing basically all the things people do when they are going out, i.e. being with each other, spending loads of time as just the two of us, speaking and texting for at least an hour or so every day, that i can honestly say i am flat out in love with the girl. she's never off my mind for more than a few seconds!

i haven't discussed the whole thing of going out since back then, and i'm considering bringing it up again. i've a few reasons for this, but one of them is that she has been out of the country for the past while, and is coming back in February, and we are in the same college. what i'm really worried about, is that if we are not going out, i will see her getting with other people on nights out and that, and that is going to absolutely kill me. the thoughts of it even know make me feel ill. i don't know if i will be able to stay friends with her if that will be the case.

i'm terrified about bringing this subject up. i don't want to risk losing her as my best friend. but i don't want the torture of seeing her being with others, because i want to be the one with her. i just want to go out with her! it's that simple really!

by the way, we're both in our early 20's. i don't know if the way im thinking or feeling is normal or weird or what, i've never been in anything like this position before. i'd really, really appreciate any advice you have to give!

thanks so much in advance!

Elba101

Well if you're not already boyfriend/girlfriend then technicaly she can be with other people regardless of how close you are now... I think you should tell her how you feel. If you go out and see her with someone else, you can't say anything because you're not technicaly bf/gf.

You dont know what she's gonna say so just tell her how you feel.

SarahSassy

Tell her - fortune favours the brave.... good luck

Bottle_of_Smoke

I'd say your chances are <1%.

She knows well you're mad about her, if she felt the same something would have happened by now.

Who cares if you lose the friendship, its not a real friendship if its based on you wanting to be her boyfriend.