looks

LegacyUser

I'm a mid-twenties single female. I have never been in a relationship and sometimes begin to wonder if I'll meet someone I like enough to love and who likes me back..

It might sound conceited but I know I am quite attractive.
I would be classed as overweight but I am in proportion as I am almost 6ft. I go to the gym 4-5 times a week. Over the years i have come to realise I am never going to be thin I have lost all the weight and it never made much difference to how I see myself and I am happy about this and no one is perfect. I like the way I look, I am healthy and confident about my general looks. I would probably look best 1 stone lighter and am working on this.

My issue is with other people. I am constantly being told by people male and female that I am amazing looking, why am I single etc. This gets so frustrating as the thing is, people(men) don't say it to me but rather to my friends. I have had instances where I know I have a connection with someone be it at college/at work or in the supermarket but nothing meaningful ever comes of it.

I'm the life and soul of any party. I'm down to earth and give anyone a chance. Looks aren't that important to me but I would have to be attracted to the person. Guys chat me up on nights out etc and I have the odd drunken kiss or more but I have come to find these interactions unfulfilling.

Men who do ask me out are generally older and not really the kind I am attracted to.
I have given internet dating a try and I am honest in my profile and my pictures. Have met up with people unbeknown to my friends but the men I have met were either very strange, married or looking for sex. I have given up on it as a way to meet people.

I wonder sometimes if guys would be embarassed to go out with me because I am slightly larger and very tall? The rational part of me tells me that I will one day find someone who likes me for who I am. It just gets annoying as I am so very tired of being single and people asking me why I am not in a relationship when the truth is Id like to be.

Odaise Gaelach

You mention all these guys that come up to you are "generally older and not really the kind (you are) attracted to".

I might be wrong, but it sounds like you're waiting for a guy you're interested in to approach you. Perhaps you should try approaching him instead...?

LegacyUser

well you seem to be relativly happy and confident with how you look and maybe you should try just take things into your own hands and ask guys out you like rather than waiting for someone to come to you which doesnt seem to be working for you,im sure there are some guys who would feel slighty embarressed going out with a girl taller than them but not all,ill never have that problem as im 6'4 :P anyways your still young and plenty of time to find someone right for you,good luck!

kjl

Some people overrate their looks, you don't sound like my type, tall and overweight, I'll pass. I think you need to be more open to people, don't go around with this gods gift attitude and then maybe you might have a genuine connection.

You claim that looks are not importatnt to you, but you felt the need to title your post "looks" and then go on about 4 paragraphs about how good looking you are, that is both vein and conceded.

You say you have never met a guy you like, never had a boyfriend. this is because of two reasons, You are either unapproachable, or not as good looking as you say.

Why don't you focus on getting a personality rather then boasting about how hot you are

LegacyUser

if you consider yourself goodlooking why title your post looks? Are looks an issue you are avoiding?

LegacyUser

For a girl, being both tall and big is generally a disadvantage. Alot of men normal sized men will subconsciously rule you out straight away.

However, there are a sizeable minority of men who find bigger women a huge turn on.
I'm sure that eventually you will hook up with one of these men. Being single, unfortunately, is a waiting game and its out of your control. There is no point in wondering about and doubting your looks, because it doesn't matter what you think, you're a big woman, its not like you can hide your size - anyway it only matters what 'the man' thinks... and the men who hook up with six-foot big girls... are men who are mad into six-foot big girls!

By all means continue the traditional dating routes, but I imagine your guy is going to find you!