Ask her out or not??

isuppose25

Hi all,

I'm 25 and in college at the mo doing arts,
i really fancy this girl but dont know whether to ask her out or not, i'm pretty sure she likes me and we chat away all the time,
Here's the tricky bit, she's 19, would it be wrong of me to let her know how i feel?
is the age gap too big?
would i look like a spa if she said no?
anyone have experience of a similar situation?

Any feedback welcome

minidazzler

Go for it.

What's the worst that could happen?

The only thing you will regret later is if you don't try.

The age gap is tiny TBH, I know 19 year old girls going out with men who are pushing 40.

isuppose25

hey, thanks for the reply minidazzler,

yeah i suppose the worst that could happen is if she says no,

if she does say no, do you think people would loose all respect for me or is age as big an issue as i think it is?

minidazzler

isuppose25 wrote: »

hey, thanks for the reply minidazzler,

yeah i suppose the worst that could happen is if she says no,

if she does say no, do you think people would loose all respect for me or is age as big an issue as i think it is?

Who are these people?

If they lose respect for you because you had the bollix to ask a girl out directly, do you need their respect in the first place?

isuppose25

minidazzler wrote: »

Who are these people?

If they lose respect for you because you had the bollix to ask a girl out directly, do you need their respect in the first place?

Yeah well said, i just think about the consequences waaaay too much, why do i worry about other peoples thoughts.

i dont see how ill be infringing on other people if i do ask her out.

I'll be pushing 50 and still worrying,

i think ill do it, whatever happens,

thanks again minidazzler

isuppose25

anyone else have a view on this??

LegacyUser

Theres nothing wrong with an age gap.
I was 5 years older than my ex.

However, the only worry is if you're looking for a serious relationship, 19 might cause a problem.

but go for it!

what will be will be after that.

themusicman

Ask..the worst thing that can happen is she says no....and that in the long term is better to know. Never die wondering!!!

isuppose25

thanks guys,

is there any unwritten rule about age gaps?

also we're in the same class so would it be awkward if things went pear shaped?

themusicman

isuppose25 wrote: »

thanks guys,

is there any unwritten rule about age gaps?

also we're in the same class so would it be awkward if things went pear shaped?

No rules imo

Unless you are the only 2 in the class it should be fine and even if you are it shouldnt be a problem. Mostof the time its only a problem in the rejected ones head because no one likes rejection.

Most girls( and men) are flattered to be asked even if they say no for whatever reason. It is an ego boost to be considered attractive. To say that to someone by asking them out is a good thing to do, and we should all do something good every day

Liam Byrne

isuppose25 wrote: »

is there any unwritten rule about age gaps?

Yes. And the reason they're unwritten is so that you have a chance to write them between you two; no-one else.

isuppose25 wrote: »

also we're in the same class so would it be awkward if things went pear shaped?

Stop trying to give yourselves reasons not to ask her.

Chucky the tree

isuppose25 wrote: »

thanks guys,

is there any unwritten rule about age gaps?

also we're in the same class so would it be awkward if things went pear shaped?

half your age and then add 7. She's outside this limit making you Gary Glitter according to the rule, although it's 19 and a half so she might still be good to go depending on where your birthday is. Your choice though, I wouldn't if I was in your position.

Didymus

I don't know about anyone else but most parents I know have at least a 5 or 6 year age gap.

Anyway ye're both in college, it's about maturity levels at this stage as opposed to age. Give the girl some credit she is 19 and in college so I can only assume she has a mind of her own. If she was say in the leaving cert year and you were in college and 6 years older it would be different.

Go for it and good luck!

LegacyUser

Chucky the tree wrote: »

half your age and then add 7. She's outside this limit making you Gary Glitter according to the rule, although it's 19 and a half so she might still be good to go depending on where your birthday is. Your choice though, I wouldn't if I was in your position.

I hope that's a joke...

Nothing wrong with that age gap OP, as long as it's all legal don't let anyone tell you it's wrong.