Funeral

LegacyUser

My friends mother died. I can attend the removal, but I will not be able to attend the burial due to work commitments. Do you think my friend will understand? As I work in a different part of the country it is not possible for me to take a few hours off then come back to work.

dudara

Of course your friend will understand. Make sure to let your friend know that you can't attend all of the funeral, but that you're thinking of them.

LegacyUser

dudara wrote: »

Of course your friend will understand. Make sure to let your friend know that you can't attend all of the funeral, but that you're thinking of them.

Thanks for the quick response. I think he will understand as even to make the removal mid-week is a good ole trek for me. I suppose he will have alot more on his mind that day than who is/is not in attendance.

mikewest

A couple of words of apology in person at or before the removal will cover all if it's a real friend. People understand if you can't make time for everything but can take the time to explain. Oh and in this instance, for gods sake don't explain by text.

LegacyUser

I've just had a family bereavement. It's always appreciated when people make the effort to come to the funeral but you also know that they have work/family commitments etc, especially if it's mid week.

Your friend will be grateful that you made the effort to go to the removal and will totally understand about the burial, if you tell him why you cant be there. It's important to be there for him after the funeral also so try to make time for him over the next few weeks.

Sinall

Yes, of course. he will understand. Your friend will be appreciative that you are able to attend the removal.

dublingal80

of course he will understand. happened to me at my dads funeral where some people could only go to the removal and not the funeral and vice versa. just knowing that they were there for me at some point was lovely and the texts and calls i got after is what matters. Just text him in the morning to say good luck and you are thinkin of him and his family and you will see him as soon as possible, and then in the evening give him a call to see how he is doing

Up de Barrs

Your friend will appreciate you taking the time to go to the removal especially if you are travelling a distance.

brian ireland

john_33 wrote: »

My friends mother died. I can attend the removal, but I will not be able to attend the burial due to work commitments. Do you think my friend will understand? As I work in a different part of the country it is not possible for me to take a few hours off then come back to work.

The very fact that you are so worried about your friends feelings. You posted here!!!! Does that not prove to you that you are a very good person who cares? If you care and love people, You don't have to try, It shows.

nesbitt

When you are at the removal, explain that you are unable to attend the funeral. If you are comfortable phone on the day and say that they are all in your thoughts etc, just a quick hello call. Make arrangements for a meet up/nite out as soon as you have some free time to make the journey to see your friend. Make sure you let them know that you will see them soon.

symbolwoman

Once you are at the removal you can explain the circumstances. Offer to do something practical to help at some other time. Even a big hug and a listening ear a few weeks after the funeral can be great. Most people will have moved on with their lives but close family need the support most in the time afterwards