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Rough breakup

  • 16-11-2009 10:37am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey boardsies

    I posted he a while ago regarding problems with my OHs kids. I had confided in a close friend and have now decided that I'm ending it, not just due to the kids but the controlling nature the fact that we fight ALL the time and that no change ever comes from the chats we have after.

    So this weekend we've (well I) decided to break up. I'm in the middle of finding somewhere to live. Work colleagues have offered me their place but I don't want to bother them and family isn't an option as they are far away.

    This is so heartachingly difficult I really am in a bad place. He wanted us to continue but looking at it logically Im not the one for him. He is older than me and with the kids, agressive nature, possesion issues and all the rest I just feel like "I'm done". Having said that I feel so crap for doing this to him and yesterday he wouldn't stop crying and as a result I turned down a place to stay because he couldn't handle me leaving so soon. Today the tables have turned I'm upset but still see why I think it's for the better and now he's being very negative towards me so I have missed an opportunity to get out of here for another 2 weeks.

    I really don't know what to do, it's a new situation for me as he was my first boyfriend so I think thats making things worse. Should I get out before I change my mind or he becomes violent? I regret not taking the lifeline as it won't do anybody any good....I think it was a gesture on my part to make him see I will always be there for him...just not like before.

    Oh god I've just read that post back and I look like I'm a horrible horrible monster and all this pain is all my fault!

    HELP!


Comments

  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    He has been out all morning and has come back to let me know that he won't be back tonight as his son has tried yet again to kill himself.

    I couldn't of chosen a worse time to do this. I feel so horrible......:(:(:(:(


  • #3
    Gyalist
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,537 ✭✭✭Gyalist


    You've made your decision so you have to follow through on it immediately. He is trying to manipulate you into staying.

    His son's issues are not yours to solve. Get out. He is a grown man and will be able to look after himself.


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