20 & Still Single

lovemaths

hey guys, im 20 and im still single im not the worst looking girl but seems guys are only interested in skinny blondes that wear abercrombie....i actually dont know what to do..whenever im out with my friends they always seem to get guys and most of my friends are in relationships i feel like such a 3rd wheel...embarrassing or what lol i guess im just wondering if anyone knows what i can do to put myself out there and actually try get a boyfriend!!

G-Money

If it makes you feel any better, I'm male, 32 and in the same boat!

kc89

aww poor thing! just be yourself and im sure some guys will fall for you!

Moomoo1

all I can say is that there are plenty of guys of your age who are in the same boat... maybe you should stop going out in the evenings with pretty friends and look for guys elsewhere

your username suggests a connection with Maths... you do know it's a heavily male-dominated subject, right?;)

Eve_Dublin

lovemaths wrote: »

hey guys, im 20 and im still single im not the worst looking girl but seems guys are only interested in skinny blondes that wear abercrombie....i actually dont know what to do..whenever im out with my friends they always seem to get guys and most of my friends are in relationships i feel like such a 3rd wheel...embarrassing or what lol i guess im just wondering if anyone knows what i can do to put myself out there and actually try get a boyfriend!!

When you say you´re 20 and you´re still single, do you mean that you should have found the love of your life by now? Not to patronise, but I´m 29 and I still haven´t found the love of my life yet....and I´m not at all worried! Honestly, I think 20 is too young to be in a serious relationship, you´re still so young....now is the time to be having fun and testing the waters because you´ve a whole lifetime ahead of you for all that relationship malarky and a lot of the time, it´s not all it´s cracked up to be. Just have fun!

Webmonkey

I'm 23 and haven't found anyone yet. Few of my friends are in a similar boat.
I see you are from Cork. If the City, then you may be interested going to Cork forum and joining us on social outings/beers. Lots of boardies have met people through it.

That_Guy

You're only 20. There's plenty of time to settle down and find the love of your life if there is such a thing.

I'm 21 and single. Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever find someone but tbh I'm still young. Now's the time to do things you want to do. Travel the world etc.

The world is your oyster and all that. Enjoy yourself, have fun because when you do eventually find someone you'll find that you may not have much time to do things.

Plenty of time OP. Just relax. There's plenty of others who are in the same boat

Alessandra

20 is young! I'm mid-twenties and single. Actually enjoy being single a lot more now that I did when I was your age. Sure it can be frustrating at times but most of the time I love being unattached. One small bit of advice, stop going out to clubs and pubs in the hope of catching a boyfriend. Sure it happens for some people but not for all. You'll enjoy your nights out a lot more once you start doing this:)

minidazzler

lovemaths wrote: »

hey guys, im 20 and im still single im not the worst looking girl but seems guys are only interested in skinny blondes that wear abercrombie....i actually dont know what to do..whenever im out with my friends they always seem to get guys and most of my friends are in relationships i feel like such a 3rd wheel...embarrassing or what lol i guess im just wondering if anyone knows what i can do to put myself out there and actually try get a boyfriend!!

I call bullsh1t on this OP.

You are 20, no need to go out looking. Just be confident in yourself.

When you go out, throw caution to the wind. Don't hold back so you won't look "weird". Do stuff you want to do!!

Also on the confidence issue, pick words carefully and a little delibrately.

An Example would be where you say

"im not the worst looking girl"

Don't say that, because that says "I am not very confident in my looks, but I am better looking than a few." To me at least that is a self-deprecating statement.


Use.

"I am a good looking girl." instead!

You are in Cork I see, so pick your clubs carefully really!!!

Certain one's are places people go for a score. Anything on the reardans side of Washington street.

Some are where people go to meet people they already know. Redz, G2.

If anywhere really you were gonna get a score and a guy to text after rather than ignore you. It would be in Gorbys IMO.

So try to build confidence and be open to what happens!!

lifelonglufc

Welcome to a very large club then! I'm a 20 year old fella and single.

Already had two serious relationships, one of which has had an everlasting effect on me, and still affects me every day. So trust me and everybody else when we say you're a little young at 20 for serious relationships!

But still each to they're own I guess, cos apparently I'm different to other guys my age, being that I'm way more into relationships than this one night craic, and random scoring of girls!

Think maybe I'm too nice or something :P

EDIT: Oh and PM?! First date this weekend?! :P (I joke mods!)

ash23

+1 on the Skinny blonde thing.
Thats nonsense.
By 20 I'd had 3 serious relationships, one child and was embarking on what would be a 6 year relationship.

I was far from a skinny blonde. I'm a brunette, not skinny.

But I do know I'm fairly attractive, I'm nice and I'm funny. Stop dwelling on your negative attributes and focus on what would attract a guy. Highlight your good points physically and don't try to be what you're not.

If you feel unattractive and unworthy then thats how you'll come across.

magneticimpulse

Dont worry OP. I was 22 and finished college before I met my 1st boyfriend. Yeah id snogged a few guys at college socials but never anything more than that. only had my next serious boyfriend last year and back to being single again (nearly 29). its tough going, but i always had great craic in college with all the guys and they were great friends. still in contact with all of them. id rather have great friends than a crappy relationship. theres plenty of time. dont worry there are plenty of people in the same boat. i met lots of guys at 22 who had never had a girlfriend. it takes time and us oldies are still looking. youve so much traveling the world first