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  • 13-11-2009 3:24pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    Right I have been reading thru posts on this and I have come across a few that were similiar to mine so I apologise if it feels like deja vu but heres my version...
    A few years ago when I started college, I met a young man and we became friends instantly, and I started liking him, we got together on the last nite of exams and didnt see each other over the summer that was grand fast forward to 2nd yr and my feelings returned the instant I saw him I ended up telling him how I felt but he just wanted to be friends I thought that might have snapped me out of it but no such luck as that was over 2 years ago and I still feel the same way.

    we finished college last yr but this yr he is different around me we spend nearly everyday together, frends have commented on how there is somethin between us and that we're like a couple, people who dont know us think we are and he doesnt correct them, I certainly feel like we're tip-toing around the issue and I dont want to be the one to suggest anything as I already did and I certainly misread the situation last time round. I have been with other guys in an attempt to get over him but I just cant seem to. Now I must also add that recently he said he thinks he's gay possibly bisexual but is not sure as he has been with other girls throughout the year and that he has a crush on another guy.

    Sorry for the lenght and the whittering on, any help on this would be greatful :)


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  • #2
    MissFlitworth
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,057 ✭✭✭MissFlitworth


    Are you familiar with the term 'Faghag'? Because that's what you are at the moment, you're his best buddy and you get along like you're in a couple but you're not and he doesn't see you like that. Seriously, head along to a gay bar any night at the weekend and spot the dozens of 'couples' exactly like you guys are at the moment. When he meets someone new/decides to make a move on the guy he has a crush on he will leave your couply relationship behind and you will move more back to being friends again. He wouldn't be telling you he thinks he's gay if there was any chance in this world he was interested in you.

    Stop being part of a second-rate couple, cut him loose and start looking for someone for yourself


  • #3
    dublingal80
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,540 ✭✭✭dublingal80


    he aint interested. sorry

    He has known you for how many years? If he was interested he would have kissed you already or at least told ya. Enjoy the friendship for what it is, and find yourself a gorgeous guy who does like you! :)


  • #4
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    It certainly seems like he is using you as a crutch until he finds someone or finds himself. But then you are using him too hoping that he will somehow realise what a catch you are and return your feelings.

    Maybe just give each other a break - think about it - if you are out together and friends are commenting that you seem like a couple - what do other guys who might be interested in you think....

    For your sake and his - time to move on.


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