Disaster of a date

Wasy

Some people might find this funny but not me unfortunately. I went out on a date with a girl last weekend. Things were going well, we went clubbing, snogged a bit and thing were going great until i accidentally passed wind. She said nothing and text me the day after thanking me for a good time, i replied saying the same and i have heard nothing since. Im mortified as i find breaking wind ignorant and the last few nights i have barely slept a wink with the embarrasment. Maybe im reading too much in to it and she just doesnt fancy me.

Nervous Wreck

Maybe she's wondering why you haven't made contact since the day after the date.

Mackleton

Listen, girls really don't take too much notice of that as long as it isn't a recurring thing, like you were constantly and unashamedly doing it when with her, then, it's a problem. I do think you're reading way too much into this and she is probably only silent because you are and she doesn't know why.

If she's a decent girl then the wind breaking incident probably has already been forgotten.

Wasy

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

Maybe she's wondering why you haven't made contact since the day after the date.

Well she contacted me and i replied back and i have heard nothing from her since, maybe i should text her, i would have text her only for that unfortunate event, maybe im reading too much in to it.

LegacyUser

Jesus, man up and call her.
I reckon 90% of the problems on this forum would be prevented from becoming an issue or solved completely if people would stop relying on text messages as a primary means of communication. I have come to the stage where to cut out the nonsense this creates I only respond to phonecalls. Works a treat and I have none of this "where do I stand" rubbishe.
I'll say it again for emphasis: PICK UP THE PHONE AND CALL HER. THAT'S WHAT GROWN UPS DO.

mood

Your reading too much into it! She texted you the next day so is probably interested. You should contact her now and forget about what happened. It's not big deal.

Wasy

mood wrote: »

Your reading too much into it! She texted you the next day so is probably interested. You should contact her now and forget about what happened. It's not big deal.

Your probably right, there was a big crowd there and maybe she didnt think it was me, maybe i should get some guts and contact her but when she didnt contact me after Saturday maybe i read too much into it.

mood

You can't expect her to do all the chasing!

OS119

Wow, you farted. you do, like, kind of know that its a required part of your digestion process? you can no more stop farting that you could stop your heart beating or your eyelids blinking.

did you leap onto the table, rip down your trollies, stick your arse in the air, let rip and scream 'get thee behind me Satan!' while trying to light it in a blowtorch fashion - or perhaps waft it into her face while yelling 'get some of that inside you, it'll put hairs on your lungs!' no? well, in that case you'll be all right with any normal human being.

i don't wish to be rude mate, but perhaps she didn't call because she thought you're, well, a bit weird...

Wasy

OS119 wrote: »

Wow, you farted. you do, like, kind of know that its a required part of your digestion process? you can no more stop farting that you could stop your heart beating or your eyelids blinking.

did you leap onto the table, rip down your trollies, stick your arse in the air, let rip and scream 'get thee behind me Satan!' while trying to light it in a blowtorch fashion - or perhaps waft it into her face while yelling 'get some of that inside you, it'll put hairs on your lungs!' no? well, in that case you'll be all right with any normal human being.

i don't wish to be rude mate, but perhaps she didn't call because she thought you're, well, a bit weird...

A bit weird, why? Strangely enough i didnt fancy discussing the incident with her.

samsung22

Wasy wrote: »

A bit weird, why? Strangely enough i didnt fancy discussing the incident with her.

What's gonna happen here is that you will eventually grow a pair and text/call her. You 2 will then go on a few dates, you might get the ride one night. Then id say after approx 5/6 weeks she'll realise she wants to "just be friends" (shag other guys 'cos she's a tramp!) and then the cycle will start again for you with some other randomer:)

No need to thank me!!:pac:

Dord

Just call her.

extrinzic

It was hardly a "Dutch Oven". She'll get over it.

LegacyUser

OP thats mild.

Picture this, first date over coffee with my now girlfriend I manage to blurt out "I am talking to your cleavage" putting my head under the table out of the embarressment I popped up to say something equally ungracious about her legs going on forever.

I followed this up with being 2 hours late for the second date.

So if she likes you the incident will be a blip and she will ignore it.

So yes call her and tell her how much you enjoyed yourself and do the difficult second date bit.

Good luck

Zaph

samsung22 wrote: »

What's gonna happen here is that you will eventually grow a pair and text/call her. You 2 will then go on a few dates, you might get the ride one night. Then id say after approx 5/6 weeks she'll realise she wants to "just be friends" (shag other guys 'cos she's a tramp!) and then the cycle will start again for you with some other randomer:)

No need to thank me!!:pac:

Infracted for unhelpful post

Zaph

samsung22 site banned for a week

Wasy

Well i text her and she never replied and i just noticed she's taken me off as a facebook friend. God i havent felt this low in a while, we used to text each other 30 or 40 times a day for the last 3 or 4 weeks but i suppose it most definetely wasnt meant to be.

LegacyUser

Wasy wrote: »

Well i text her and she never replied and i just noticed she's taken me off as a facebook friend. God i havent felt this low in a while, we used to text each other 30 or 40 times a day for the last 3 or 4 weeks but i suppose it most definetely wasnt meant to be.

Well I hope you've learned that communicating by text is not the way to go. Also, if you wanted to see her again you should have called her and asked her on a date.
Irish men: take note. Stop using texts to ask girls out. Stop texting and texting without making a phone call. And if you want to impress, make sure she KNOWS its a date. Finally, OP, please learn from this experience and don't text 30 or 40 (the mind boggles, it really does) times without CALLING her first.

mood

helpful person wrote: »

Well I hope you've learned that communicating by text is not the way to go. Also, if you wanted to see her again you should have called her and asked her on a date.
Irish men: take note. Stop using texts to ask girls out. Stop texting and texting without making a phone call. And if you want to impress, make sure she KNOWS its a date. Finally, OP, please learn from this experience and don't text 30 or 40 (the mind boggles, it really does) times without CALLING her first.

Agree and also call a little sooner. If the date was Saturday, she text you the following day and heard nothing from you until Wednesday night she possibly thought you were not interested.

Elbi

Wasy wrote: »

Well i text her and she never replied and i just noticed she's taken me off as a facebook friend. God i havent felt this low in a while, we used to text each other 30 or 40 times a day for the last 3 or 4 weeks but i suppose it most definetely wasnt meant to be.

Maybe you you took to long to contact her and she got sick of waiting.
its weird she took you off her FB account tho,

dublingal80

Well, all you can do is learn from this. I know she texted you the next day and you texted her back, but why wait for days before texting her again. She may have been having her doubts and wasnt sure and maybe thought she would see how the date would go and the next few days and when she didnt hear from ya she prob thought , ah sure, he aint interested, and moved on

I can promise you, its not because you farted. honestly and truely it isnt.
There is actually an episode of sex and the city where carrie farts infront of big and they stop having sex and she is convinced it is cos she farted (it wasnt)

Unfortunately she just isnt that into you. If she was, she wouldnt let something like that come between you. She isnt the right girl for ya

Wasy

I wouldnt mind her not fancying me, thats fine, i just cant believe she hadnt the decency to let me know. I travelled a long distance after a long day to take her out and a bit of common courtesy wouldnt go amiss, i suppose thats why i feel hurt.

LegacyUser

Her level of courtesy? If you liked her that much would you not have called her up for a chat instead of texting her all the time. I have decided that I am not getting into any more "situations" where a guy isn't grown up enough to phone me like an adult and ask me out, likewise texting is not a way to communicate. Have you not learned that after reading the thread? If you like a girl, call her like a man and ask her on a date and don't text her 40 times a day. If she's anything like me she's thinking "oh great, another text, does he not know how to talk on the phone" and moved onto the guy who acts like an adult.

mood

Look she made the effort the following day and sent you a text. She probably got p*ssed off when you did make the next move. It probably look like you were not interested so she decided to move on and not contact you again and make a fool of herself.

What age are you?

desmurphy

maybe it was something else that scared her off. maybe something else put the wind up her.

Pyr0

You farted ! So what ? Everyone does it. Yeah sure it's a bit embarrasing with someone you just met or whatever but big deal, if you end up going out you might even find yourself purposely farting in her direction some time down the line :pac:

Give her a ring or a text and arrange another date man !

GigaByte

OP, I can't imagine its because of a fart but if she's dropped you from her Facebook I don't think its a good sign. It did seems from your post that you did have a good date. Was there much drink taken?

helpful person wrote: »

Well I hope you've learned that communicating by text is not the way to go. Also, if you wanted to see her again you should have called her and asked her on a date.
Irish men: take note. Stop using texts to ask girls out. Stop texting and texting without making a phone call. And if you want to impress, make sure she KNOWS its a date. Finally, OP, please learn from this experience and don't text 30 or 40 (the mind boggles, it really does) times without CALLING her first.

I dont think you read the post you quoted, he said "We used to text 30-40 times a day", note the word we. If you think she's dumped him for sending text messages you're living on planet cuckoo (the mind boggles, it really does).

Wasy

GigaByte wrote: »

OP, I can't imagine its because of a fart but if she's dropped you from her Facebook I don't think its a good sign. It did seems from your post that you did have a good date. Was there much drink taken?



I dont think you read the post you quoted, he said "We used to text 30-40 times a day", note the word we. If you think she's dumped him for sending text messages you're living on planet cuckoo (the mind boggles, it really does).

There was a bit of drink involved, i drank a bit more vodka than her but i wasnt drunk and rude either. The night before our date i rang her and we spoke for about a half an hour and got on great so i think she'd could have let me known she wasnt interested, sensitive a bit i suppose i am.

shellyboo

She text you the day after! She WAS interested! You just ignored her for four days, what did you expect her to do?!?!

By not getting in touch, you gave a clear message that you weren't interested - she took the hint, dude. You ruined this one for yourself by not asking her out again straight away.

Wasy

shellyboo wrote: »

She text you the day after! She WAS interested! You just ignored her for four days, what did you expect her to do?!?!

By not getting in touch, you gave a clear message that you weren't interested - she took the hint, dude. You ruined this one for yourself by not asking her out again straight away.

When she text me the day after saying thanks for the night, i text her back saying the same thing, i thought that showed i was interested, well i text her last night saying i liked her and she never re[lied, i think i should get the hint now.

Up de Barrs

Wasy there is no way that she went off you because you farted on a date (unless it was very loud or you cleared the dance floor?), you've read way too much in to this. She's probably thinking you have gone off her and wondering what she did wrong. Give her a ring and ask her out over the weekend, if she says no then you write it off though I'd be fairly sure she'll say yes. Best of luck.

Wasy

Well i text her saying it was ok if she wasnt interested, she text back eventually saying she was busy with work and she text away never answering my question and like nothing had happened. We have only text a few times since, what is her game do ye think?

mood

Just ask her out again. If she says yes see how it goes. If she says no move on.

Kimia

Stop texting her!!! It's getting bad now.

You texted her asking was she interested, she didn't reply.

You texted her again, saying it's ok that she's not interested. (!!!) Which it clearly isn't, because you are interested, and you want her to be interested.

She texted back going 'I'm busy with work' - god how awkward. She doesn't want to be a b*tch obviously.

And now you're asking what's up because you've only texted a few times since.

I'm sorry OP, but she's really, really not into you. Stop texting her, back off with dignity!!!!!!

mood

Kimia wrote: »

Stop texting her!!! It's getting bad now.

You texted her asking was she interested, she didn't reply.

You texted her again, saying it's ok that she's not interested. (!!!) Which it clearly isn't, because you are interested, and you want her to be interested.

She texted back going 'I'm busy with work' - god how awkward. She doesn't want to be a b*tch obviously.

And now you're asking what's up because you've only texted a few times since.

I'm sorry OP, but she's really, really not into you. Stop texting her, back off with dignity!!!!!!

Agree. Read you last two posts again. I would just leave it.

Wasy

I wont text her again, just can't understand why she didnt tell me she was'nt interested. Ah well, thanks for the advice.

foundry

OP

She's just not that into u.

Thats all..

No biggie, all will be forgotten about in a month trust me. Your grand.
NO MORE TEXTING.

scarymoon1

Wasy wrote: »

I wont text her again, just can't understand why she didnt tell me she was'nt interested. Ah well, thanks for the advice.

I have learned that some people don't like telling someone they are not interested so they will ignore, avoid the question or just act distant with you. I guess they don't want to feel bad telling someone they dont fancy them. Yeah it would be better if she told you straight out but in this circumstance you have to read the signs - she's not texting much anymore and avoided your question. Just forget her and find someone else.

Darthhoob

Wasy wrote: »

When she text me the day after saying thanks for the night, i text her back saying the same thing, i thought that showed i was interested, well i text her last night saying i liked her and she never re[lied, i think i should get the hint now.

she more than likely thought you were just being polite seeing as she text you first and you simply replied saying the same.

seriously i very much doubt the fart put her off. it could have been a number of factors. but the fact she text you first means that she more than likely had interest.