Have little luck with women

LegacyUser

Ok where do i start lol

I seem to have no problems talking people women or men im usually a confident person and i dont think im that bad looking my problem is i just cant seem to get a break or a bit of luck in relationships.

I mean for personal reasons i aint gonna go into details with some the failed relationships i have had over last few years but some where really crazy and i really dunno what to do.

I joined dating site maybe year or so ago <Snip> (Mod Note: Don't link to dating sites)

And i have met some girls on here but i cant seem to get to talk to ones i would really like to i mean most just ignore ya even though im just being nice chatting whatever nothin bad ya no i mean what more can i do ? lol

I aint into chattin up women out in pubs and clubs its just not me like i feel un comfortable doing it.

So i guess im just wondering what my best options could be cause id love to find someone who is maybe on same wave length as me in life or just at least someone who i get on with.

So any ideas ? any advice on what im doing wrong?

BraziliaNZ

forget about internet dating, it only works for certain people, I don't really like trying to plaster my personality all over a profile page, it just doesn't work for me - thus no one responds to my messages, so don't take it personally. I tried it recently and came out of it feeling I must be an ugly get or something. I mean seriously I would message even rough looking ones that I'd never go near in real life and get no response lol. It doesn't bother me though as all the gfs I've had have been gorgeous. They must be getting 1000s of messages a day on those sites.

I never pick up girls in bars/clubs either, all the girls I've gone out with and really liked were met under random circumstances, like moving into my house, friends of friends, one girlfriend I met getting off a nightlink and we discovered we were near neighbours etc.

So you just have to be confident about yourself, improve yourself, keep busy, get fit. If you do all that, eventually someone will come into your life, that's how it works for me.

That or they wont come into our lives and we'll die alone while everyone else is having tonnes of sex every day but who knows?

LegacyUser

See when im out its with me mates i go out have laugh relax enjoy meself if we get talking girls thats fine if we dont no big deal.

I mean i dont think im that bad a catch i have good job im easy going nice bloke and i dont class me self as ugly plus i always go out to enjoy meself and have a laugh and it comes across in who i am people who know me know this.

But ya i just find it hard to talk to women sometimes cause i dont like the whole go out chattin up someone thing makes me feel stupid.

camk

Outofluck wrote: »

See when im out its with me mates i go out have laugh relax enjoy meself if we get talking girls thats fine if we dont no big deal.

I mean i dont think im that bad a catch i have good job im easy going nice bloke and i dont class me self as ugly plus i always go out to enjoy meself and have a laugh and it comes across in who i am people who know me know this.

But ya i just find it hard to talk to women sometimes cause i dont like the whole go out chattin up someone thing makes me feel stupid.

hi outofluck dont mean to be forward here but maybe your comming across as to sure of yourself try being a bit more natural and show the real you, women respond more to honesty and the more down to earth you are the better treat them as an equal. just be you. hope this helps

LegacyUser

Hey camk thanks for the reply

See i dont really come across as anyway big headed or forward cause i aint like that ya i have my own way of showing confidence and what not but im very much so down to earth and on level ground about life and how i treat both men and women.

My main problem is i find it hard to chat up women i feel silly when im doing it i have no problem talking them just like i would me mates if were out but i would never go up and ask them out or start chattin them up or anything like that just not me.