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Idiot: Needs help

  • 09-11-2009 2:32pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I met the girl of my dreams a couple of months back on holidays. Beautiful in looks and personality. We are from different parts of the country, but stayed in constant daily contact until we went back to college where we are both in the same city, where we went on our first proper date.

    Things went well, had a few dates. We got on very well together, had similar interests. However both of us had busy lifestyles and lived in opposite ends of the city-we saw each other about once a week. She said we shouldn't see any more of each other last week. I'm pretty upset about it.

    Last weekend we seemed totally happy. 4 days later she tells me we aren't compatable. She accuses me of not having strong feelings for her, if I did I'd spend more time with her. This I'm probably guilty of. I've also been accused seeing other girls while I was with her. She knows this as I'm an intercounty footballer and we're all the same apparently...

    Part of the reason I was a little bit distant was the fact that she had recently came out of a long term relationship. Another was I'd never had a serious relationship before. I was maybe afraid to admit to myself and her that I really care for her. Probably a bit immature in terms of relationships also. I was maybe a jack the lad before and she may not want to get hurt.

    So in the last few days pride has stopped me contacting her, that and fear I'm wasting my time. I'd like to show her that I want spend the rest of my days with her. I tried to tell her before how much I liked her but she keeps telling me I'm full of excrement. Am I totally doomed or should I try again?

    Thanks for any advice on this rambling message from a guy who is a bit lost!


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  • #2
    scarymoon1
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    Hopeless fool wrote: »
    I met the girl of my dreams a couple of months back on holidays. Beautiful in looks and personality. We are from different parts of the country, but stayed in constant daily contact until we went back to college where we are both in the same city, where we went on our first proper date.

    Things went well, had a few dates. We got on very well together, had similar interests. However both of us had busy lifestyles and lived in opposite ends of the city-we saw each other about once a week. She said we shouldn't see any more of each other last week. I'm pretty upset about it.

    Last weekend we seemed totally happy. 4 days later she tells me we aren't compatable. She accuses me of not having strong feelings for her, if I did I'd spend more time with her. This I'm probably guilty of. I've also been accused seeing other girls while I was with her. She knows this as I'm an intercounty footballer and we're all the same apparently...

    Part of the reason I was a little bit distant was the fact that she had recently came out of a long term relationship. Another was I'd never had a serious relationship before. I was maybe afraid to admit to myself and her that I really care for her. Probably a bit immature in terms of relationships also. I was maybe a jack the lad before and she may not want to get hurt.

    So in the last few days pride has stopped me contacting her, that and fear I'm wasting my time. I'd like to show her that I want spend the rest of my days with her. I tried to tell her before how much I liked her but she keeps telling me I'm full of excrement. Am I totally doomed or should I try again?

    Thanks for any advice on this rambling message from a guy who is a bit lost!


    If she is the girl of your dreams - then id say try again. Explain to her what you said here - make more of an effort to prove you ARE into her. She seems insecure a bit so try to reassure her you like sending time with her. Im not sure why she'd accuse you of cheating - maybe she was cheated on in the past and is scared. And if she is still not convinced then I guess all you can do is move one. Thats my advice anyway.


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