Acceptable Wedding Gift from Unemployed Bridesmaid

Sparkles

Dear all,

Could you please help me out on this rather sticky question....I'm going to be a bridesmaid at my cousin's wedding in the UK next week. Problem is I'm unemployed and can't afford to give much cash as a wedding gift which I feel terrible about. I travelled over for the Hen Night which involved staying in a hotel overnight, two months ago and am flying over again next week for the wedding which is also quite a financial strain. How much do you think I should give? I do not recieve Rent Supplement therefore need to pay my rent and bills out of my weekly unemplyment benefit. Am getting quite stressed about this....

Thanks,

Sparkles

catho_monster

If it was me, I'd give a gift, or make a gift. Something thoughtful that means something to you and your cousin. I wouldn't even think of going down the money route.
Just my 2c.

i71jskz5xu42pb

Call her, explain the situation, get her nothing, tell her you'll sort her out when you get back on your feet.
I doubt she'd want you stressing at her wedding.

amdublin

Is she English? Or marrying an English fella?

In the UK they give way way way less than the crazy amounts we give over here. None of the paying for your meal rubbish as well.

Maybe make a nice gift?

Or maybe a nice small newbridge silver wedding they could put a wedding pic in?

Enii

Maybe a nice Christmas Decoration with their names on it and the date they got married - I'm sure they'll love it!

BTW - the couple didn't invite you to their wedding to get a gift from you, they invited you so that you can help them celebrate their special day!

Sparkles

Aww thanks everyone for your lovely ideas, they're all fantastic. Am feeling relieved now, thank you, thank you!!

Sparkles.
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How Strange

Have a look for a photo of the two of you as kids and get it framed or any nice photo of her.

emma82

Make her a mixed CD of all your favourite boogie songs- print off a picture of you two and use it as the CD cover. Really cheap but she will appreciate it far more than you stressing over money you haven't got to give her!

carolinespring

For my friends wedding I got a guest book and asked all the guests to write a message (one per page) and took a photo of each person/couple and stuck it on the page with the message. I also added a copy of the menu, photos of the hotel, ribbon from the flowers, mass book etc.
I know on the day you will be busy but maybe you could rope a family member/friend/bf to take the photos and just hop round with the book during the evening (which is what I did) and dont forget to put a little number under where you are going to stick the photo with the number of the photo number on your camera (if it is a large wedding you might not know everyone)

My friend and her husband loved the book and years later still say it was the best gift they got. Someone did a simpler one for my wedding and I still take it out and have a read. I didnt give it to my friend until well after the wedding.

Best of luck and dont stress and enjoy the day.

prinz

As above - make a gift. Something simple, but thoughtful.


That or buy some artwork, seriously get a cheap enough unique painting and tell everyone it cost €€€€'s. It's art. No one will know the difference.

Enii

carolinespring wrote: »

For my friends wedding I got a guest book and asked all the guests to write a message (one per page) and took a photo of each person/couple and stuck it on the page with the message. I also added a copy of the menu, photos of the hotel, ribbon from the flowers, mass book etc.
I know on the day you will be busy but maybe you could rope a family member/friend/bf to take the photos and just hop round with the book during the evening (which is what I did) and dont forget to put a little number under where you are going to stick the photo with the number of the photo number on your camera (if it is a large wedding you might not know everyone)

My friend and her husband loved the book and years later still say it was the best gift they got. Someone did a simpler one for my wedding and I still take it out and have a read. I didnt give it to my friend until well after the wedding.

Best of luck and dont stress and enjoy the day.

Wow! What a fab present!!!!

Well done on such a great idea!

carolinespring

Enii wrote: »

Wow! What a fab present!!!!

Well done on such a great idea!

Thank you, I really enjoyed doing it. It didnt cost much, I think the book was about 20 euro and the cost of printint the photos and glie was not much.