Break up or not?

LegacyUser

Hey all,Basically I'm going through a really tough time and don't know what to do!I've been with my gf for over 8 months now and 7 of those months were among the best of my life but the last month or so has been really soul destroying:(

The first 7 months were so exciting,we spent every last minute of every day together and on the odd occasion where that couldnt be the case,I would be counting down the minutes untill I could see her again etc.....For me it was love(as I know it anyway)...I'm only 20 so it was my first time feeling like this for anyone,it was the best feeling in the world

However just over a month ago,we had an arguement which lasted a few days and I eventually raised the white flag for the sake of it even though I felt in the right etc..It was quite a big issue at the time and for a week after it I regretted giving in and I felt kind of angry with her...Anyway that brushed over and we moved on or at least she did

Since then something has been missing for me,I don't get that exciting buzz every time I see her or kiss her.Yes the arguement triggered the downhill spiral but I cant understand why it affected me as much as it has,I never think about that arguement anymore yet the feelings aren't the same,Im so confused and it's really getting me down:(

I told my best friend about it all and he said it's a phase etc,give it a month and it will brush over,so last night out of curiosity I checked my texts to see when I had that conversation with my friend and I was dissapointed to see it was a month and 5 days ago!

Back then he felt I should end it if I still had doubts after that month but Im still afraid to make that decision!One problem me and the gf have is that we live so close to each other so we see each other every single day without fail and I think that may be the issue,that because I see her everyday its too easy for me not to appreciate her,but anytime I try and suggest we stay in 1 night and meet up again tomorrow or whatever she just calls up!

I dont resent her,my fist doesnt clench when I see her,I just dont enjoy or appreciate our time together like I used,I really dont know what I should do or how long I should wait before enough becomes enough,shes a great girl and for so long I couldnt believe she was mine and now I just want that feeling back!...apologies about the length,any oppinions would be greatly appreciated,cheers!

fizzz

why won't you just talk to her?? who knows maybe she she has the same feelings as you... i think you should talk to her cuz problem won't disappear just like that especially if it lasts over a month like you said...

Holda

Sounds like you need some space to remember how much you miss her. Why not talk to her about it? Or even say that it's been a while since you've had a proper lads night or two and encourage her to catch up with her friends. It'll do you both the world of good. I see my bf all the time and sometimes I start to forget how much he means to me, not seeing him for a little bit reminds me of the feelings that are always there and that I sometimes start to take for granted.

LegacyUser

Hi guys,op here thanks for the replys!

I'm afraid things took an ugly twist before I got to read your comments,I called up to my gf last night and we watched tv for awhile,then out of the blue she told me she loved me and I didnt give her the reaction she was hoping for so she asked what's up...I told her about the last month etc and she got really angry over me elaving it go on so long so she said we obviously need a break so we can both decide how we feel

My head was messed the last month,I didn't know what to do and now that she has called for a break I find myself equally confused!She's being very bitter all day via text,which I expected so im trying my best not to fuel fights and am trying my to be patient with her

I think this is why I kept it to myself for the length of time i did:(