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confused about a guy

  • 04-11-2009 7:37pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi guys...
    This is something I am really confused about..and I know it's a long winded story... and I can't get this guy out of my head although I'm moving on....but very confused and frustrated over mixed signals. I really liked this guy and would like a totally outside opinion on the situation.
    I met this guy a few months ago in the organising of a social event and got very drunk and slept with this guy. I know...it was a bad idea but I had just gotten out of a long term and quite abusive/mind controlling relationship a few months previously... and I guess I just wanted to have a bit of fun and let loose for a night! Anyway.. was so mortified the next morning and he said something about texting me but to be honest I figured he would probably never text me again... except he texted me the next day and we flirted over texts for the whole week and then he asked me out on a date at the end of that week. So we went out, and had a really nice time etc... well, I thought we did.
    When I first met him, he told me he was going to the States for about 4 weeks the following week...so just a couple of days after our date, he was gone and he told me he'd keep in contact. We had the odd text back and forth after our date but to be honest once he had gone I didn't want to be hassling him on holiday. But then, out of the blue, he then sent me a number for him while he was in the States...which I saw as a good sign...cos if he didn't want me to be in contact with him while he was there...why would he have texted me with such a number right?
    Anyway... I sent him one or two texts over the next few weeks (one of them he responded with "coming home soon X" but and wasn't exactly counting the number of weeks that had gone by, but I just presumed he would make contact when he returned back to work etc.... but didn't hear anything until I got a very random text from him... didn't say anything about us....was more of a random detail... A mutual contact of ours made contact with him (this person had no idea of myself and this guy) over a different matter altogether... so I'm guessing he sent the random text cos he knew that I would hear from our mutual contact that he was now back home again. To be honest, the text was so random, I didn't know what to say to it... which probably came across in my response to it...
    So what do we think? Just leave it?? Or do you think he's playing hard to get or maybe expecting me to chase him?
    Thank you for any advice
    So that's where it stands now...


Comments

  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    May as well go for it ...no point in wasting loads of time pining over him...


  • #3
    shellyboo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    Jeepers, would one of the two of you make a move already? Someone's going to have to :rolleyes:

    Just ask him out, OP. Then you'll have your answer.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    You are both pussy-footing around one another - time to take the bullby the horns. Contact him and ask him if he fancies hooking up. He sounds interested, you obviously are too, so make the move girl. He has been in the States and might think you have hooked up with someone in the interim so get the girlie-skates on and give him the green light:)


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