asking her out

LegacyUser

simple question, im sure it comes up in here all the time, how to ask the girl out.....

im mid to late 20's, met this girl through work. dont work directly with her so never see her in work, met her through joining a sports club set up by work. so see her once or twice a week at this club. only still getting to know the girl but seems like a nice girl and would be interested in going out to see how we get on. have been emailing each other a few times just chatting, having a bit of a laugh. only a few weeks left of the sports club before it ends. no idea if she is interested or not, could just be a friendly girl.

so thing is, dunno how best to approach asking her out....i could email her and ask her directly but if she says no, still have to see her at the sports club, or could wait till the next work night out and ask her face to face, that could be a while though...any suggestions on best way to approach this?

Kenno90

advicepleass! wrote: »

could wait till the next work night out and ask her face to face, that could be a while though...any suggestions on best way to approach this?

Why not try to organize a night out yourself with the few people from work , mention it to her and she if she is up for it.

She'll feel comfortable in a group of mutual friends(assuming you have mutual friends)
Then when you are all out they get some alone time with her. Ask her to help out with the round of drinks or ask her to join you in the beer garden for a smoke ( assuming either of you smoke, Hope not if you's do sport :rolleyes: ) .... you get the idea!

Ya never know . Good luck

Elbi

Just mail her and ask straight out, no point beating around the bush, I know that you'd hate the thoughts of seeing her if she said no but look you'l never know unless you ask,

Let us know if you do ask her ?

LegacyUser

op here.....if you where in the girls situation and you got an email from a fella in work asking ye out on a date, maybe a bit out of the blue, what would you think? i dont want to not do anything, might as well ask her and find out, i just wanna ask her at the right time!!!

christina_x

hmm.. i think you should strike up a conversation with her at this club, offer a lift home ect, something! and then ask her face to face. i would be sooner to say yeah to you in person than through an email

suspectpackage

Very cowardly move doing it through email. Way less likely to be successful too.

Tricksy

One way would be to say that you have got hold of a couple of tickets to say - The Laughter Lounge on Friday etc... and would she be interested in going with you. If yes then you can go and get the tickets if no well you can gauge if it was just that night/event or she had another half or wasn't interested.

Tricksy

LegacyUser

op again, thanks for replies!

kinda agree with you suspectpackage, email wouldn't be my first option either, but like i said, still only getting to know her to be honest, dunno if asking her face to face at the club is the way to go....suppose i could get her number and ask her that way, or just wait till the next work night out.....which god knows when it will be.

Elbi

suspectpackage wrote: »

Very cowardly move doing it through email. Way less likely to be successful too.

I dont think so people arrange dates over the phone and even by text so i dont see how an email is any different,
OP obviously doesnt want to ask straight out face to face so i do think it is the easier option for him,

Wibbs

Usually I would agree. Asking by email bad plan, but since you're already communicating mostly through that medium and you cant pluck up the courage to just come out with it face to face, then email is a possibility.

D

Yeah never ask a girl out over email/phone/text always do it face-to-face.

BumbleB

suspectpackage wrote: »

Very cowardly move doing it through email. Way less likely to be successful too.

Like everybody says don't email her, be brave approach her the next time.

I enjoy your company do you fancy meeting up for a drink ?.

If its not going to happen she's going to be polite to you ,rewind back to where you where ,and still be friends.It's no big deal ,people have 1 night stands and have to meet the next day . You just have to get on with it.

The chances she could have a really hot friend and because she likes you would be most definitely in there. Never burn your bridges in that respect because that happens quite a lot ,I kid you not.:) good luck !!!

Trillian

Personally speaking, as a girl, I would be WAY more likely to say yes to a guy who asks me out face to face than over email/text. Unless, of course, I was mad about the guy to start with. If this girl likes you but isn't mad about you, a date is your way to convince her otherwise so you really want to get her there!

I'd suck it up (maybe wait till the last night of your club to save face if she says no!) and ask her out for a coffee/drink. Since you're sort of friends already, even if she says no she's going to be superflattered and things will go straight back to the way they were. Unless you make it weird of course.

Nothing ventured....

suspectpackage

To be honest OP, what you need to do is actually talk to her and guage her interest level. From that point you can decided HOW you will get the number. You never want to flat out ask for the number. Because then you have a number and it's not worth much on it's own, and that's if you even get the number which I would say is quite low of a chance unless you talk to her for a while and get to know each other well. You want to actually make the date there and then. So at the end of the convo you could say to her, "you seem really cool, you've got a really good vibe, what's the best way for us to keep in touch with each other?" She can say phone (if she's really interested), or email/facebook etc. You'll find out her interest level from there, if you still don't know at this point. If she says phone, take her number and tell her that you are shopping for some clothes tomorrow and you'd like her to come and give you some fashion tips! she will agree, life will be good, and you can say thank you later!

LegacyUser

hey i would like some advice im in mid 20's and I got to know this girl through work. I no longer work there we got on very well, I have met her a couple of times since leaving and met her with her friends a few wks back of a sat nite we were out chatted v.well and bumped into her last sat nite again. She is 21 I would like top ask her to a wedding in a few weeks time how should I approach im quite shy with this help plez!!!!! Or is there too much of an age gap?