Right to be annoyed?

LegacyUser

Looking for some advice on this one

My brother in law ran the marathon in aid of a charity that my mother always supported. My mother died unexpectadly this yr.
He sent out an email looking for sponsorship which i forwarded on to my friends. That was 2 weeks ago. None of them have sponsored him.
I know its peoples choice about sponsoring, and times are hard etc, but most of my friends have good jobs and I feel they should have given even a small amount.
Recently I'd gone to my friends house as her mam was doing a charity brunch thing. I donated to that.
Up to this I would have considered myself to have close friends but I feel really let down that not one of my friends so much as donated a euro to the cause.
Am i overreacting?

Eve_Dublin

Do they donate money using their credit/debit cards? Some people are wary of giving their details online with all the scams going round at the moment...I know I´m a little bit old-fashioned on that front and try to avoid buying or paying for anything online. Perhaps they´re unsure if it´s a legit website or charity...I doubt they´re intentionally trying to hurt your feelings OP? Perhaps you could do it the old way with a sponsorship form, signatures and handing the cash over face-to-face when you see them next.

I really don´t believe it´s a case of your friends being thoughtless and not wanting to help in some way.

Are your friends aware how much this means to you i.e. do they know your mother supported this particualr charity?

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You have the right to be annoyed but I don't think you have the right to be odd at them and let them know it.

Its charity, they can donate if they want to. Also you said nobody even donated a euro, as if someone would, and maybe people didn't know how much to donate and didn't want to insult you?!

Anyway, its a great thing you are doing, best of luck.

Monkey61

I don't think you have a right to be annoyed.

To be honest I think it is a bit cheeky when people try to guilt friends into forking out hard earned money for charity. People are entitled to do what they like with their own money. And people often support their own charities. I have one or two particular causes that I am passionate about and if I am going to donate money to anyone, it will be to them and them alone.

It is obviously awful that your mother died and I'm sure your friends are very sympathetic, but they are not going to feel as strongly as you are about a charity that she supported. Also, chances are they are not close to your brother in law. I don't think I would be particularly motivated to donate to a charity being supported by a friend's brother in law that I received an email about.

If they are your friends, respect their decision.