How do you make it work..

Him

I'm 19, male, can be sensitive but mad and outgoing at the same time when i'm not in my own sensitive zone..

I've Seen a few girls over the past couple of years. Let me emphasize SEEN.
SEEN means you see them for a few weeks, a couple dates, trips to the cinema, some food...etc

Every time I've seen them for a few weeks it's never develped into anything serious..
Clearly we like eachother. I have asked them out on a date or 2, no problem..

There's always a connection, I may get shy if I really like them..but it always ends in a , drift away, cya later, type of situation with no relationship actually developing.

I have a decent enough sence of humor, but every time this happens and as girl by girl drifts away, it puts me down and really doesn't help my confidence..I question, why I can't open up and make it into something serious

The fact that I've never had a serious relationship before makes me wonder 'will i ever be able to get into anything serious with a nice girl'.
I know eventually I will, but i find it really difficult especially cuz most girls probably have been in relationships and my lack of experience/ no relationship experience, will show when I do try to make things work.

I'm just looking for advice on How to turn 'seeing someone' into 'a relationship'..
Developing something you've started into something more special..
How to make her wanna see you again..

basically, I want it to work with the next girl i see/ girl i get back with

Sigh! You can't make someone want to see you again. And in saying "I want it to work with the next girl i see/ girl i get back with" you remind me of a song Lenny Kravitz wrote:

Heaven help the fool
That walks through my door
'Cause I decided right now
I'm ready for love


Be careful, desperation is very unattractive.

You seem to have one issue that is solvable ... "why can't I open up and make it into something serious?" ... and you speak of girls "drifting away".

You might need to work on your self-confidence and, if you want to keep them, be brave enough to not let them slip away.

You also seem to put girls on a bit of a pedestal by assuming that they have more experience of relationships than you do. Having had a "serious relationship" by the age of 19 and subsequently finding yourself single is actually quite rare!

I know it sounds cliched but just relax, go with the flow ... not all "seeing someones" will turn into any kind of a relationship and you won't have the "serious relationship with a nice girl" until the girl you're seeing is the right one.:)

Him

Deleted User wrote: »

Sigh! You can't make someone want to see you again. And in saying "I want it to work with the next girl i see/ girl i get back with" you remind me of a song Lenny Kravitz wrote:

Heaven help the fool
That walks through my door
'Cause I decided right now
I'm ready for love

Yeh your right, I guess I just have to work on giving them a reason to want to see me again.. Leave them curious/ wanting to get to know me better..

Deleted User wrote: »

You might need to work on your self-confidence and, if you want to keep them, be brave enough to not let them slip away.

Self confidence yes, I know I should work on it but how does one increase their self confidence?

Deleted User wrote: »

You also seem to put girls on a bit of a pedestal by assuming that they have more experience of relationships than you do. Having had a "serious relationship" by the age of 19 and subsequently finding yourself single is actually quite rare!

What exactly do you mean here?

and thanks for the reply! :rolleyes:

Him

Him wrote: »

and thanks for the reply! :rolleyes:

What's with the sarcasm?

Him wrote: »

most girls probably have been in relationships and my lack of experience/ no relationship experience, will show when I do try to make things work.

THAT'S what I mean. Don't go into any situation feeling inferior because you assume that someone is more experienced than you and your lack of experience will be a drawback.

I'm limited in what I can access on the net but I guarantee if you simply google "improve your self confidence" you'll find loads of help.

Wibbs

Are you getting physical with these women? Are you revving that bit? IMHO this is where a lot of guys go very wrong. They walk themselves into friendzone by not acting like a lover, a romantic partner.

Him

Deleted User wrote: »

What's with the sarcasm?



THAT'S what I mean. Don't go into any situation feeling inferior because you assume that someone is more experienced than you and your lack of experience will be a drawback.

I'm limited in what I can access on the net but I guarantee if you simply google "improve your self confidence" you'll find loads of help.

oh it wasnt sarcasm, sorry it came across as so lol. i was genuinely sayin thanks!

Him

Wibbs wrote: »

Are you getting physical with these women? Are you revving that bit? IMHO this is where a lot of guys go very wrong. They walk themselves into friendzone by not acting like a lover, a romantic partner.

Good advise, I do need to act more like a lover/romantic partner!
i just don't like to rush things ya know.
i'll try it next time nd let u know how it goes :cool: