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  • 02-11-2009 9:14pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    So i broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years around 2 months ago and I'm new to this single life. Really enjoying it at the moment but I'm not quite sure what it entails. I've hooked up with a friend in college a few times at parties, just kissing and nothing else. I fancy him and he fancies me but I don't want a relationship! I'm just wondering how long is it before a guy actually wants something more than kissing....I've never done anything more than kissing outside of a relationship!! As in I dont want to seem easy or a slut but I am very attracted to him......what do you think would be the longest I'd make him wait so I don't seem easy to him and my whole class??!


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  • #2
    opinion guy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,001 ✭✭✭✭opinion guy


    randomer123 wrote: »
    Really enjoying it at the moment but I'm not quite sure what it entails. I've hooked up with a friend in college a few times at parties, just kissing and nothing else.
    Um theres not really a rule book.
    I'm just wondering how long is it before a guy actually wants something more than kissing....

    About the length of time it takes the visual impulses to travel from his retina to his brain. Generally speaking. There are exceptions.
    I've never done anything more than kissing outside of a relationship!! As in I dont want to seem easy or a slut but I am very attracted to him......what do you think would be the longest I'd make him wait so I don't seem easy to him and my whole class??!

    Ok see its not really about what he thinks or about what your whole class thinks - (thou frankly if you think he is going to kiss and tell and your whole class to automatically find out i'd stay well away - thou i'm not sure you don't want them to know urself in some way). Its about what you feel, and what you are ready for having considered the consequencs etc. Do you think you're emotionally wired to handle causal sex ? If you are approaching this from point of view of what everyone else thinks then maybe not. But you have to judge that for yourself ultimately.


  • #3
    Libertewhite
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 312 ✭✭Libertewhite


    hey randomer123

    I'm in a similar situation as yourself but I like a girl that's in your situation!
    So coming from my point of view, since I really like this girl, id wait till shes ready.


  • #4
    Squeeonline
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,580 ✭✭✭Squeeonline


    Tell him upfront that you dont want a relationship, or you want to take it slowly.

    You'll probably have to be very obvious in the way that you tell him. From experience, I often miss out on hints.


  • #5
    extra-ordinary_
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,097 ✭✭✭extra-ordinary_


    Squeeonline wrote: »
    Tell him upfront that you dont want a relationship, or you want to take it slowly.

    Doesn't sound anything like that she wants to take it slowly. She wants to know how soon can she sh*g him without being classed as easy/slut.


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