Breathtaking Barmaid :)

LegacyUser

Hey,

This is gonna seem like a strange/stupid problem but I dunno what to do with it.

I was out last week one evening, long day at work and decided to stop off for a quiet pint after work on the way home. Went in and sat at the bar and noticed the barmaid was absolutely lovely, she had only started working there and I started talking away to her. Anyway ended up staying at the bar for 3 hours (my quiet pint turned into a few quiet pints) chatting to the girl behind the bar and a few other ppl at the bar (actually the only reason I stayed there so long was because I fancied the barmaid). Anyhow, I eventually called it a night, said goodbye and headed off.

Now the thing is I quite liked this girl who was working in the bar but I don’t know how to go about maybe getting back to talk to her again or to maybe ask her out. Like if I go back to the bar again and go drinking just so I can talk to her I might come across as an alcoholic or something, also will it seem weird if I show up with the only intention of hoping she is there and then I will seem like a stalker or barfly.

Anyone any ideas?

shellyboo

Going back to the bar one more time is not going to make you look like an alcoholic or a stalker... just go back, have a drink, chat to her, ask her out.

opinion guy

or go back and have a coffee instead of a drink and she won't think your an alco!!

Nervous Wreck

Or go back with a few mates so it looks like more a social occasion.

Annie Bananie

My suggestion is to go back and talk to her again and see how you get on, in any way the previous posters suggested

However, if you want to ask her out, come in and do it a day when you are not going to be a customer at the bar. A good few companies has a "no dating customers"-rule, and I know I would myself always turn a customer down, due to the reason he is actually a customer. But if you came in extra just to ask her out, she might take it more seriously as well, then if you do it after a few pints, which she easily can class a "drunken thing".

Good luck!

kjl

I say leave it alone, unless you are certain you have a chance, I don't like the idea of guys sleazing on barmaids.

A female friend of mine works in a bar and says he hates the creepy guys who come in and sit at the bar trying to make conversation with her.

But hey, keep us updated.

Jesus Juice

Ask her out.Im just gonna quote a song here from

''Thou shalt not go to the same bar,week in,week out,just cause you seen a girl there you fancied who you're never gonna talk to anyway''

Be Wary you dont fall into that trap!

MikeCork2009

kjl wrote: »

I say leave it alone, unless you are certain you have a chance, I don't like the idea of guys sleazing on barmaids.

A female friend of mine works in a bar and says he hates the creepy guys who come in and sit at the bar trying to make conversation with her.

How can you be certain if you have a chance or not? You will never know unless you try. There are a large number of people who often comment on here about not having the confidence to talk to girls or cannot meet women because they are out of their league, its all about taking the chance and forgetting about whether she will say yes or not. If she says yes gr8, if not well hey at least you tried. And what you are talking about does not sound like "sleazing". Go for it

RandolphEsq

kjl wrote: »

I say leave it alone, unless you are certain you have a chance, I don't like the idea of guys sleazing on barmaids.

A female friend of mine works in a bar and says he hates the creepy guys who come in and sit at the bar trying to make conversation with her.

Your friend clearly has issues.

OP just go in and be spontaneous. Ask her out. What have you got to lose?