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Present for wedding

  • 31-10-2009 6:17pm
    #1
    Rocky77
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43 ✭


    I've been invited to the evening part of a wedding and just wondered what the protocol is for gifts. I was just going to play safe and put some cash in a card, but how much? I know the thinking about enough to cover the cost of your meal, but since I won't be there for that....


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  • #2
    Harpic
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 108 ✭✭Harpic


    dont bring any presents as they didnt bother inviting you to the whole thing :mad:


  • #3
    Rocky77
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43 ✭Rocky77


    I wonder how that would look though...?


  • #4
    Harpic
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 108 ✭✭Harpic


    Never brought a present where i was just going to the afters---they wont even notice anyway ..my view is you only bring presents if you are going to the whole wedding


  • #5
    laneyw
    Closed Accounts Posts: 42 ✭laneyw


    would u turn up 2 any other party without a card or gift


  • #6
    toadfly
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,412 ✭✭✭toadfly


    The last one we went to we put €50 into the card. couldnt give nothing!


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  • #7
    How Strange
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,339 ✭✭✭How Strange


    If you've been invited to the 'stand up' rather than the 'sit down' then I'd give a token gift. Maybe a €30 one for all voucher or something like that. I'd consider €30 an acceptable amount but I certainly wouldn't be stuffing €50-€100 into a card. But then again I don't agree with this afters crack. You're invited or you're not as far as I'm concerned.


  • #8
    Toots
    Administrators, Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,978 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Toots


    The last afters I was invited to, I brought a card and one of those Yankee Candles. It was about €20. Didn't want to show up empty handed, however I absolutely would not be forking over €50 or anything like it just for the afters. If it was the whole day then it would be a different story.


  • #9
    hikeywikey
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8 ✭hikeywikey


    I'm in the same boat as the OP. I'm going to the evening reception/afters of a wedding next week, with a guest, and I have no idea what the gift etiquette is. There seems to be a bit of disagreement both here in the thread and among people I've asked. I'd spend up to about €50.. but should I get a small gift, give it as money/voucher, or get nothing at all if it's just the afters? Any thoughts appreciated.


  • #10
    spurscormac
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,523 ✭✭✭spurscormac


    Recently went to afters of a friends sister, who we'd reasonably often see in the pub. Similar to above, didnt want to show up empty handed, so got a nice crystal vase, ~30 I think it was.

    Something like that for an afters I think is fine - for the whole affair, I always give money.


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