Popping the Question

LegacyUser

Is there such a thing as too soon to be thinking about marriage in a relationship or would it be true to say that when you know, you just know.
I've been with my girlfriend for about 3 months now, we were seeing each other for about 2 months before that and we are madly in love. I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl and she feels the same way. My whole perspective on life has changed since we started going out and everytime we are together I notice something about her that makes me love her even more.
We have talked about marriage and it is looking inevitable at this stage. I'm not the kind to wait around and am seriously thinking about proposing in the next few months.
Am I crazy? Has anyone gone through anything similar.
Any advice would be much appreciated.

opinion guy

My answer to this is going to entirely depend on the your answer to the following question: what age are you both ?

BraziliaNZ

theproposal wrote: »

Am I crazy? Has anyone gone through anything similar.
Any advice would be much appreciated.

Yes. When I was 20. Bad idea, lasted a year! But we were stupid kids living far far away! The key question is how old you are as Opinion Guy said.

daisybelle2008

OP you really have to let us know how old you are before any advise can be given...

LegacyUser

op here. not sure if i can post from 2 different ips. earlier post was from work. at home now.
i'm 26 and she's 25.

opinion guy

theproposal wrote: »

op here. not sure if i can post from 2 different ips. earlier post was from work. at home now.
i'm 26 and she's 25.

apparently you can.

anyhow. ok so your sort of in between the two age ranges i was thinking off. if you were 19, 20 i was going to say HELL NO and if you were 30+ i was going to say why not. but you had to awkward and be in the middle didnt; you ?

What I think is this. I've known some couples who have gotten engaged after so short a time and it has worked out fantastically well. but they were all about 30ish when they met. and time will tell if they really work out (some will, some won't i suspect). Personally i think mid20's are an age where lots and lots of changes are going on and alot of people get lost and mixed up. its kind of that phase where you are finished college, in the real world and realising alot of the false expectations you had up until now. Applying this to your situation, what i think is that you shold just chill for a bit. you are still getting to know urself, both of you. give it another 3 months and see if you feel the same way. then maybe give it another 3 months. and maybe another. if you still feel this way and things are still great then it might be time to take these thoughts more seriously. hmmm think about a long engagement also

Mainly what i'm saying is - whats the rush, eh ? I don't think any girl would expect you to propse so soon and nobodies body clocks are ticking too loudly just yet. Enjoy what you have sans complications till ye know each other a bit better

dirtydress

You're still in the "honeymoon" stage of your relationship...slow down, wait til you hit the 1 year mark at least and then start thinking about wheter this is still what you want. You dont even know enough about each other at this stage! Spend some time getting to know each other before you start jumping the gun

SheRa

Ok if it was me being proposed to after 5 months Id freak out no matter how much I loved the guy. Why dont you suggest moving in together first, and maybe propose 6 months down the line?

Canis Lupus

Jaysus 3 months.... Exactly what difference will marriage make?

Wait 1 year at least.....3 preferably imo.. Then talk about marriage.

What's the rush? If shes "the one" she'll be there in 3 months or "till that day"

deisemum

OP I met my now husband when I was 23 and he was 22. I proposed to him after 5 months together, he just swept me off my feet. We'll be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary in a few months and we're both very happy together. I love him more than ever.

There's no guarantees when it comes to which relationships last the course, I've seen plenty of relationships where people have been together 10+ years and then get married only for the marriage to break down not long after the wedding.

You could always have a long engagement if you're worried about the honeymoon period in the relationship, where things are all romantic. It's the stresses of mortgage, children and outside influences that can really test a relationship.

BankMan

My opinion:

Way too early. What's the hurry ? Relax and enjoy the early stages of the relationship. Ye have plenty of time !

XarcherX

hi op, if she really is "the one" then you shouldn't rush things cos she'l still be there a year down the line. Move in together first would be my opinion, that's when you really find out if yer compatible.
i'm a 26 y old girl and to be honest if a bf proposed to me after only 5 months it would freak me out a bit so maybe you need to be sure that it definately is something she wants before dropping the bombshell on her.
whatever you decide, best of luck and i hope it works out for you x

opinion guy

to all of those saying a proposal this early would freak them out i'd like to remind ye that the OP said this:

We have talked about marriage and it is looking inevitable at this stage.

they've already talked about it and she didn't freak out. That said i do agree with everyone that its very early. the moving in together things sounds like a good idea