Blushing

Wasy

I am a fairly confident person but i have an awful habit of blushing when i talk to certain people and it has got to the stage of avoiding these people. I dont know what comes over me, maybe i think about it too much. Has anyone got any tips.

wolfric

It sounds like it's all in your head. If you could live through it and laugh it off then it wouldn't be such a big deal. Act all awkward and shy away or get irritated and people are going to notice and remember. if you don't seem bothered or even mess back then nobody's going to have any power over you with it.

Is it just random people or some person you like in particular? It can sometimes be an odd help if you haven't got the guts to ask them out to let them know you're shy but interested.

LegacyUser

I used to have a really bad blushing problem.

I found the best thing to do was to bring it up myself & say something like "oh there I go blushing again - what am I like" and that eases the whole thing.

It does get better as you get older & more confident. I hardly ever blush these days.

Wasy

wolfric wrote: »

It sounds like it's all in your head. If you could live through it and laugh it off then it wouldn't be such a big deal. Act all awkward and shy away or get irritated and people are going to notice and remember. if you don't seem bothered or even mess back then nobody's going to have any power over you with it.

Is it just random people or some person you like in particular? It can sometimes be an odd help if you haven't got the guts to ask them out to let them know you're shy but interested.

Plenty confidence with woman, could be in any sitution, at a shop, meeting a stranger, dont know why cause im not shy.

Taltos

used to blush wrote: »

I used to have a really bad blushing problem.

I found the best thing to do was to bring it up myself & say something like "oh there I go blushing again - what am I like" and that eases the whole thing.

It does get better as you get older & more confident. I hardly ever blush these days.

+1
This was me too. However in my case after blushing for a few minutes I am also liable to break out in a head-sweat (don't laugh guys).

The more I worried about it the worse it got. What happened with me is that I spent some time in a really hot climate - where I was red and sweating constantly - so eventually just forgot about it.
When I came home I realised after a while I no longer did this - it really was all in my head. Sometimes it does still happen - when I think of it. But 99% of the time now I forget all about it and it never happens anymore.

Try to distract yourself - or as above just mention it as you are talking. Once it is out and you laugh about it with the other person you would be amazed how much easier it gets.
It even gets to be a bit of an ice breaker with some folk.

wolfric

I probably shouldn't be suggesting this but for a quick fix, get an old medicine container and fill it with mints. When you're out and you start to "blush" just put the backs of your hand against your cheek, throw your eyes up to heaven and take the container out and pop one in your mouth or just say "ugh i hate these flushes" mind you if you do NEED to go about it like this it could easily become a crutch if you don't ween yourself off it after you've stopped caring about having them. (that or you stop having them)
It might be more "flushes" then blushing.