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Why the sudden change of heart?

  • 29-10-2009 10:15am
    #1
    ash23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭


    This is something that happened many months ago but has always annoyed me and left me wondering and I was just looking for some opinions on it.


    I always had a bit of a crush on a guy who I used to work with but I was with my ex so obviously I never did anything about it. I never even really flirted with him. But I knew him.
    About 6 months after my ex and I split, I met him at a party. We got chatting and he asked could he walk me home. I said ok and when we were walking home he asked could he hold my hand.

    We were chatting about everything and anything. Got back to mine and he kissed me and we talked for hours. He said a lot of stuff that lead me to believe he was fairly serious about seeing me again. Talking about how we would handle the situation with my ex (as he knows him too) and about my daughter who he also knows. He went on about how he understands what it is to be a step parent as he has a step father and half siblings.
    When he went home at 6am (we didn't have sex) we swapped numbers and he said he'd talk to me later and we'd meet up that night.

    Then a few hours later he texted me to say that he was sorry, hoped he hadn't hurt me but he was happy the way he was, being single :eek:


    And that was that. I see him around and he waves or says hi but thats been it. So obviously I don't want advice over what to do. Answer is do nothing!

    But I'm just wondering about the very sudden turnaround.

    It still bugs me to this day.


Comments

  • #2
    extra-ordinary_
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,998 ✭✭✭extra-ordinary_


    Was he drunk?


  • #3
    Oh The Humanity
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,324 ✭✭✭Oh The Humanity


    I was thinking that as well ^^

    Its not to say he probably hadn't thought it all through in his head and there was probably more than a grain of truth in everything he said to you.

    I find when I am even tipsy I am far more convinced I can do things than when I am sober. So maybe he had been strongly contemplating asking you out but with the complicaitons of knowing your ex maybe in the sober light of day it was too much for him.

    I bet he does like you though.


  • #4
    ash23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    A bit drunk but not falling down drunk.
    My theory was that he sobered up and it all got a bit overwhelming. My daughter, my ex etc.

    He was in a long termer since he was a teen and had only been single a year or so at that stage so I think it was all a bit much which is fair enough.

    Just wanted to see if my theory was reasonably accurate lol.


  • #5
    Oh The Humanity
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,324 ✭✭✭Oh The Humanity


    Definitely, you hit the nail on the head there.

    It sounds like he was very, very tempted and interested but probably circumstances stood in his way.


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