this is going to sound so so stupid..

LegacyUser

ok so long story short i stayed in my boyfs house last night and we had a big arguement over nothing thats going to sound soo immature but i think ive done nothing wrong at all...

so hes in the bathroom brushing his teeth, im in his room and a scary movie happens to be on tv, i HATE scary films so when he came back in i just said i was scared and could he turn off tv (only because its on his side of bed) didnt make a big deal of it, i switched on bedside lamp(i dont like sleeping in the dark at the best of times) so we mess around he starts scaring me, i laugh, he goes im going to scare the s**t out of you tonight and i just said please dont you dare i hate when people do that..annnyway...

i turn around and a few minutes later i said something like put your arm around me (his room is so cold!) and he goes 'no youve ruined the mood now' (?), i was kinda like 'how?' and he goes your acting like a child, you no theres nothing to be afraid off, cop yourself on etc etc.. i just said its not my fault if i get scared of a scary film (its what they are made for!) and he told me to shut up several times at which point i get angry and just think how the hell did this happen, am i supposefd to not act afraid of something because it seems childish to him? asked him what his problem was, of course he just retorts 'look i dont care anymore i dont want to talk to you etc' told me to *uck off, told him im sick of him (this is just one of MANY petty arguments) so i cried of course, he just lies there not caring, eventually fall asleep, got up this morning and left for work without speaking one word to him.

i think hes being so ignorant for no reason, duno if i should just leave him and be done with these stupid arguments once and for all?

sorry for the long post and dont laugh! i know its so silly but cant see where ive went wrong here, perhaps i have!x

e04bf099

he sounds like an arse-hole. It would take a major issue and a collosal row for me to say "f&$k off" to a gf.

You need to tell him that he needs to grow up or F£&k off! Literally!

Sephiroth_dude

Jesus what a douche,please dont contact him he owes you an apology.

Nettie

He doesn't seem nice at all! I couldn't immagine a couple together, one of them crying and the other lying there not comforting her. Especially when it was that person who made her upset!!

Have a talk with him and say you are sick of these arguments. If he acts up again then maybe it's time to move on.

Contessa Raven

He totally over reacted OP. Honestly. So what if you're afraid of horror films?(Alot of people are! Including me! ) It's not something he should tell you to "shut up" and "f**k off" over especially as it seems you only mentioned you didn't like them and said you wouldn't like him scaring you.

If I were you I would have left and gone home tbh. He doesn't sound like the type of person I'd want to spend the night with esp if I thought he might try scare me. Seriously OP, he was being a d**k!

If this sort of thing is an ongoing thing I'd say give him one more chance (and tell him he has only ONE) and if he does it again I'd finish it. You don't deserve to be made cry over something so petty.

dmy1001

OP this is just a sign of things to come. if this is the way he believes you deserve to be treated then I would re-think your relationship..... strongly!

LegacyUser

thanks for all the replies, i know you are all right just dont want to end it again, we broke up once before and i swore if we ever did again it would be for good this time! i know i probably should, i just think to myself if this is the way he acts over petty things i could only imagine what it would be like when we have real problems!

and yea i could never let someone lie there crying and not do anything about it, hes just so ignorant sometimes agh!

jellyboy

Hi op...

What did you want him to do excatlly?

Isnt he entillted to have his own mind and not have judment cast on him?

when im with a partner ,i have to remind myself that they arent puppets and i cant make them do what i want them to do...no matter what i belive...

it reads as controlling sombodys actions throught their heart...


And i read your hurt and pain....

martdalto

o.god. wrote: »

thanks for all the replies, i know you are all right just dont want to end it again!

Why not?

o.god. wrote: »

we broke up once before and i swore if we ever did again it would be for good this time!!

Why don't you?

o.god. wrote: »

hes just so ignorant sometimes

I don't mean to be funny, I'm being serious, why are you still with him? You're clearly not happy.. he doesn't appear too happy either.

Are you just with him for the sake of being with someone? Or is there a real genuine reason that you don't want to break up with him? What is the quality you love most in him, and would really really miss if you were to break up?

Being single isn't the end of the world, by the way, especially if you're not happy in the relationship you are in.

jmbkay

+1

kittenkiller

TBH, if I had someone around to my place and they started watching a scary movie while I was out of the room knowing that the very thought of it would have themselves freaked for the rest of the night, I'd be kinda pi$$ed.
It's not his job to babysit you and bend to your will and instructions.
If you don't like the program, turn the channel or turn the tv off yourself!

Your BF was obviously in a fun mood, could you not have played along for a little while and let him down gently?
Or joined him in the play-acting in hopes of distracting yourself from the film?

His behavior was beyond childish and very disrespectful, you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with each other and from his behaviour, he can't think that you have a rock-steady relationship and that you'll put up with being treated like that.

So IMHO, he's either an a$s or he wants out of the relationship.
Walk away.