What to do from here.....?

LegacyUser

Ok, I met a guy a few weeks ago, I was out, he was working, got on great, began texting (I initiated), he came to see me last week. Had been talking/texting loads, every day, hour long+ calls etc. Was very nervous before he came up, had dinner and all went great, few drinks after, stayed out til 5am, just talking, he said he had great time too, wanted relationship etc, was NOT after one thing. He text next day when he was on way home, then text later saying he'd text me later as very busy in work. Then nothing, that was almost a week ago....haven't heard a thing since, have tried to contact him and nothing. Do I just give up and move on? So confused by whole thing, really putting me off men full stop as this guy seemed so nice and now.....

LegacyUser

Is there any possibility he has a Girlfriend....

Sometimes this can happen with people when their current relationship is going nowhere and then they meet someone else....take it so far and then stop (because of being in a r/ship already)

LegacyUser

I suppose its a possibility, I did ask him and he said he didn't, he did say he was out of a long relationship about nine months now and even reassured me that whatever was starting with us was not a rebound.....not sure how he could have though, we text every night for hours, long phone calls at night too, texting during the day as well, I'm sure any girlfriend would be wondering what was going on with all the texting......oh I don't know, its so frustrating.....

LegacyUser

Hi OP
What i would do is send him a final text saying that you've tried to contact him. And if he doesnt reply you will get the message and move on.

Its worth a try...

Nervous Wreck

Have you phoned him or has it all just been texts?

LegacyUser

Have tried calling, ringing out then going to voicemail, its just the strangest thing. I sent him a final text saying that and he didn't bother replying so guess thats my answer. I wouldn't mind but the whole thing is so bizarre, I've never gotten on so well with someone from the word go, whole thing just felt comfortable, texting and calling each other loads and loads and it wasn't just me contacting him all the time. Ah well, will just have to move on, thanks for the replies. Bloody men!!!!!

mayogirlie

Is it possible that he has lost his phone and doesn't have a way of getting your number? Could he contact you at work or something or have you tried him at his work?

LegacyUser

Thats what all my friends have been saying all weekend and I had been clutching at straws all weekend in thinking that but at this stage I doubt it, its now a full week since our date and its amazing what a difference a week makes. He knows where I work, if he wanted to contact me he could have contacted me here, I know where he works but I don't want to trip into stalker territory by contacting him there. Hes on FB but were not friends and there is no way at this point that I am going to ask him to be friends. Its a shame, its bizarre, I miss talking to him but theres not much more I can do.....

ciagr297

confused84 wrote: »

He knows where I work, if he wanted to contact me he could have contacted me here, I know where he works but I don't want to trip into stalker territory by contacting him there. Hes on FB but were not friends and there is no way at this point that I am going to ask him to be friends. Its a shame, its bizarre, I miss talking to him but theres not much more I can do.....

unfortunately, you are completely right.

if he wanted to contact you, he knows how to

please please please don't go into the stalker territory

as hard as it may be, just let it go

onwards and upwards etc

LegacyUser

ciagr297 wrote: »

onwards and upwards etc

Yes, thats the spirit!!!!

dublingal80

id just forget about him and move on to the next!

We have all been there when we meet a guy, go out on a date, things go great and they either dont get in touch again, or they text to say its not working out

personally, i wouldnt want to come across as the needy person who only met them once, so when that happened to me in the past i just left it. I wouldnt ask why, or how come. I stopped caring once they did too, and believe me, you WILL meet someone a million times better!

LegacyUser

Hi OP. I have a similar situation, met a guy and was chatting and txting non-stop for a couple of weeks, really long phone calls and flirty messages over msn too. Then last weekend we eventually got to meet up for the second time, and while we had a great night and everything - great meal, drinks, late night, dancing flirting etc, the chemistry just wasn't there on my side.

I didn't want to be mean to the guy so I said nothing and went with the flow on the night - but I was thinking that long term this isn't what I want. I was actually starting to find excuses like I didn't like the jeans he was wearing (actually they were terrible, 20 year old rapper jeans on a 39 year old skinny man)!!!!

Anyway, what I am trying to say is that maybe he wasn't ready. Sometimes when you get on 'too' well with a guy initially it complicates things as imo it becomes an instant relationship. This is absolutely fantastic if you are both in the same place, but if you aren't then it is a disaster as the expectations are too high, and it feels as if it has to lead somewhere as neither one wants to hurt the other.

In saying that I think he is childish not returning your calls and telling you straight out what he thinks.

Why can't it just be simple and the two people meet, click, want the same thing and live happily ever after???