Love at first sight?

LegacyUser

I've been with my girlfriend now for 3years. We've had our ups and downs. It hasn't been the easiest of relationships but I think I love her. Recently we went through a rough patch and we had just got it sorted when I unexpectedly met another girl. I've never met anyone like this other girl. She's beautiful, smart, amazing. We haven't been with each other or kissed, but I can't stop thinking about her. We arranged to meet up for coffee after we met. She made it clear she has feelings for me and I admitted to her that I do too. I told her about my girlfriend after that and we decided it was best not to meet again but we have kept in touch.

My heart really wants to be with this girl but I don't know what to do. My relationship with my girlfriend can be difficult but I genuinely care for her and I don't want to hurt her.

Can love at first sight really happen or do I risk losing everything?

Leah-G1

"....It hasn't been the easiest of relationships but I think I love her"

I think this comment says it all really. After 3 years with her you should probably have a good idea on whether you love her or not.

Seems to me you should move on, you shouldnt have stronger feelings for someone you just met than your girlfriend...Time to call it quits before you do something that will end up hurting everyone involved!

OxO-CuBe

Ahh the grass is always greener. I don't know if anyone can answer this question but yourself. If I was in your position I would have a really long think about what I need from a relationship and what I will give back. If you are unsure of you feelings for your current gf I would sit down and find out exactly what I am unsure about. IMO 3 years is a long time to be unsure about someone.

From your post the other girl seems to have hit a cord with you. But again if I was in your position I would have a good think about why is this the case? Are you looking for an out from your current relationship or do you just fancy the pants off the new girl ? Again these are questions that need to be answered, honestly, by yourself.

So have a good think about what you need and the answer will become clearer.

Wibbs

Yet another 3 year itch IMHO. The in love bit has worn off with your partner and someone new is revving that engine. I reckon the not sure part has really only kicked off in the last six months. Two choices; if you actually love your current girlfriend and see an actual practical compatible future with her, then suck it up and ignore the horniness for the new woman. Fair play to distancing yourself. You need to break contact too though, otherwise she'll feel like an option for you. Then try and rev up your existing relationship. get out of the rut. Second choice, break up with your girlfriend and go off with the new woman. That may weather the 3 year itch better than your current. Who knows. You should do something though.

As for love at first sight? In my humble it's just lust at first sight. They plug into the partner template in your head and you go with that. The ones that last are just lucky in being right about the compatibility and there's an element of self fulfilling after the fact prophecy to it.