Should I contact him again?

LegacyUser

Met a guy over two years ago, only went out for a few weeks. Looking back now I didn’t show as much enthusiasm as him although I really liked him, we got on great and really enjoyed each others comapny and so he called it off saying we were missing that spark and a while after that we eventually lost contact.

He ran into a friend of mine a few months back and told my friend that he regretted how he behaved at the time (calling it off) and asked for my number again but she didn’t give it to him. So on hearing this I contacted him, we texted for a bit and he said it would be great to see me again for a catchup sometime he is out in my hometown.

So a few months have passed since this contact and I haven’t heard anything from him. Should I take it that he doesn’t want anything more to do with me or should I send another friendly, general text??? Thanks for all your advice, I don't know what to do.

SarahMc

Did you reply to his text saying it would be nice to catch up in your home town?

If yes, I would leave it, ball in his court.

LegacyUser

Yeah I agreed to his suggestion of catching up but I havn't heard anything from him since.

Maybe I'm just deluding myself that something could happen between us again. I felt I was sending him the right signals previously by initiating contact and texting him recently and agreeing to his vague and somewhat distant suggestion to meet, so as you say SarahMc perhaps I should just leave it up to him now.

While I tried to convince myself as I typed it that that last line is probably the most logical answer to my thread I can't get him out of my head and especially when he told my friend recently of his regret to break up.

LegacyUser

Here move on, You're worth more than waiting around wondering will some guy text you or not.

Why he said what he did to your friend only he knows but if he meant what he said he'd be well intouch by now.

I read your other thread about guys not wanting to take your number
Give yourself a break, build up your confidence, do nice things for you and forget about guys for the moment then when you are ready to put yourself out there again
I would suggest online dating, something easy and light hearted like plenty of fish just to get talking to people and see what's out there and what you think you can improve on if needs be.

That's my two cents and I wish you the best of luck with it

e04bf099

txt him... why ask? Its a no brainer. Why wait for him to initiate the next chapter. What harm can come of it? If he really wasn't interested he wouldn't have tried to get your number again. If not, well he'll tell you I reckon. Some lads are just afraid of rejection, so if you were not showing much enthusiasm, for whatever reason (shyness, insecurity, lack of certainty, etc) he may feel like you were going through the motions or something like that, out of loneliness or obligation.

Are yee livin' far apart?