Hot and Cold, what's her story?

LegacyUser

So I've been friends with this girl for about 3months and we hang out a lot together. We get on really well and went to the pub, concert, bowling etc. But it was purely friends we just enjoyed hanging out with each other. So long story short the more we hung out the more I started to like her, some mutual friends were making hints and whatnot and so I decided to tell her. I was out with some other friends on a fairly drunken night out and she showed up later on, of course I chose this most inopportune moment to tell her I liked her. Anyway that was foolish but the next day she texted me and said she likes me too so it was all good.

This was about three weeks ago, I've been out with her once or twice since then but always with other people and I haven't really gotten a chance to talk to her so it's been kind of awkward. Now I know she's been extremely busy with stuff since then and hasn't had a lot of time to hang out which I understand. But given the way stuff happened we really need to sit down and have a chat, even if it's just a half an hour. I feel like she's giving me the run around cause she is not really making any effort to hang out and I know she's hanging out with other friends. She'll text me just to say hello but sometimes if I ask her to hang out she just won't reply. I don't want to hound her but at the same time I don't want to just let it go cause she did say she liked me. I hate texting and if I want to say anything important I'll say it to her face (normally while sober!).

I feel like just sending a polite text saying that I'm kind of offended by the way she's been treating me and it'd be nice if she made an effort to hang out sometime cause we need to talk. I don't want to be a bastard but I want her to know that if she's playing games I don't want any of it. Is this a bad idea? Any advice?

cafecolour

Sorry, but it doesn't seem like she's being 'hot and cold', more like 'lukewarm/polite and cold'. I'd say she's not that interested - if she was, she'd make the effort.

daisybelle2008

If you have specifically asked her out and she ignores the text then I think you have your answer and just move on. I would not bother telling her you are offended etc., she does not owe you anything. Just suck it up and move onto someone who is genuinely interested.

e04bf099

Quite often people will not be frank. Its frustrating but if you are this sensitive about it (like myself) it will happen over and over again. In my experience, and people might disagree, people, esecially women, find frankness intimidating, controlling and clingy, or else they associate it erroneously with these qualities.

Forget her, she knows how you feel. She probably likes the attention and won't give any hints as to your position. If she is totally uninterested then she might be afraid of offending you, which is really irritating, I know.

LegacyUser

There's definitely some mixed messages there that I didn't fully elaborate on in my original post but now that I read it over it is a kind of polite coldness too.

Thanks for the perspective guys, I guess I'll just let it go. Damn wimmin