Does he genuninely like me?

LegacyUser

My problem is this.....

I am 32, he is 29


There is a guy (will call him G) I have know since childhood who I really like. He is effectively my next door neighbour from home....and our parents etc are friends.

Over the years...he always pursued me, I was his older sisters best friend. He had what I think was always sort of an infatuation with me....thought I was gorgeous and sort of had a big crush on me! We hooked up a few times when we were younger (I always kept these hook ups very innocent as he was that bit younger than me...and always resisted it because of age too I suppose)

We both went on to have other relationships(where he seemed to have a problem remaining faithful I might add). During breaks in these relationships we slept together twice...again with me making a quick exit afterwards, although they were brilliant experiences as there is a major attraction there...(you are talking stuff like u see in the movies) the chemistry is unbelievable. I eventually got married, but my marriage broke down 1 and a half years ago now. i have a little girl with my ex husband.

Myself and G have been in contact by text in recent weeks with a view to meeting up. He has been in a fairly non-serious relationship for the past few years. The girl in question has recently left the country to go travelling and while I don't think they have officially broken up, it doesnt seem to be taken any ways seriously by anyone in his family, they have split up before...in fact they seem to be nearly anxious for him to hook up with someone else!

We have recently had a passionate embrace that left us wanting more....and we have an arrangement now to meet up in a couple of weeks which will definitely lead to one place...the bedroom.

What I am really wondering is.....should I actually good ahead with this meeting, knowing where it will lead (bearing in mind GF ). Is he actually interested in me for more than the physical side of things....(because that is fairly overpowering between us)?
I am not anxious to get involved in anything serious but would like a proper relationship at least....taking it slowly. I think we could be very good together...


Should I meet up with him or should I leave it....Help??!!!

hornyfemale

I think you should meet him. Have some fun. You're two consenting adults.

SarahSassy

Guest000 wrote: »

He has been in a fairly non-serious relationship for the past few years. The girl in question has recently left the country to go travelling and while I don't think they have officially broken up, it doesnt seem to be taken any ways seriously by anyone in his family

But he is in some form of a relationship.... The girl may not see your trysts as ok so why not ensure that its finished before you throw your cap into the ring.

Liam Byrne

hornyfemale wrote: »

I think you should meet him. Have some fun. You're two consenting adults.

ER, did you miss this bit :

Guest000 wrote: »

He has been in a fairly non-serious relationship for the past few years. The girl in question has recently left the country to go travelling and while I don't think they have officially broken up

G-Money

Guest000 wrote: »

I am not anxious to get involved in anything serious but would like a proper relationship at least....taking it slowly. I think we could be very good together...

This confuses me. You say you aren't anxious to get into anything serious, but you want a proper relationship with him. Those both sounds the same with me.

To be honest I reckon you are better off doing nothing unless he's single. At the moment, he's not. How do you know he won't bang you a few times then leave you hanging once this other girl comes back from travelling?

LegacyUser

Yes I think maybe the right thing to do is nothing until he is single....

What i mean is I don't want a serious relationship for the time being but do not just want to series of one night stands that never develop into anything else (not even sure if I want a relationship with him but want it to be my decision)
Do not want to end up feeling used

LegacyUser

I don't want anything serious....but I don't want a series of one night things either...with nothing to them...that just wouldn't sit well with me.

I think maybe the right thing to do is ascertain whether he is likely to become single and then wait till he actually does.....

LegacyUser

If I decide not to meet this guy does anyone think I should tell him to come back to me when/if he breaks up with GF???
He has split up with her before to go out with someone else...the new relationship didn't work out and he went back to GF.....
I wonder is this a way of actually finding out how he feels....as in he will break up with her if he is genuinely interested in me?

Or....does something need to develop between us for there be a reason for him to break up with GF?