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  • 26-10-2009 1:07am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've been seeing a lovely guy for over 2 months but we haven't had the talk where we make things exclusive/official. When's the best time to have it? We see each other about twice a week, I usually stay over, I've met his friends and he's met mine but I really want to know where I stand. I kinda think if he really did like me though he would have already brought up the subject. Should I bring it up or just go with the flow? I just don't want to appear too pushy!


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  • #2
    Nervous Wreck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,115 ✭✭✭✭Nervous Wreck


    Wheredoistand wrote: »
    I kinda think if he really did like me though he would have already brought up the subject.

    Or maybe he's on a forum somewhere posting "I kinda think if she really did like me though she would have already brought up the subject." Why is the onus on him?
    Wheredoistand wrote: »
    Should I bring it up or just go with the flow? I just don't want to appear too pushy!

    So, he should bring it up because you bringing it up would be pushy?



    Ehm..... I don't really get what you mean but I reckon ye should just get over the formalities of who should be the one to broach the subject and just proceed towards the outcome you desire. That is to say, if you want it said, say it.


  • #3
    blairbear
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 384 ✭✭blairbear


    I think you just need to say it. Don't come out and say "are you my boyfriend??!", but ask him whether you guys are exclusive or not. Don't make a big deal out of the conversation.Just say it some night when you guys are in bed together at the end of the night. I get that it's a REALLY hard convo to have though. I'm seeing someone three months and trying to broach the topic for the last month so need to take my own advice!


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    no, I don't see why you would want to say anything now, whats the point its too soon, let it happens naturaly.

    I never understood why girls feel the need to have reassurance so early on, wait a while, 2 months is nothing and he already introduced you to his friends so that says a lot, I know for me if I introduce the girl to my mates its a good sign that I like her.

    Anytime a girl asked me "where do I stand, or are you seeing other girl..?" I felt pressured somehow and early on it's never a good sign for me to feel that way.

    good luck


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