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First date etiquette

  • 24-10-2009 7:26pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi all,
    This is a stupid question, but Im going on a first date soon and am in unfamiliar territory as my previous dates have all been with girls i knew for a while. But when greeting a stranger on a first date, is it appropriate to give a hug or a kiss on cheeks or not have any contact at all?

    Thanks


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  • #2
    metrovelvet
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,376 ✭✭✭metrovelvet


    Where are you meeting? No hugs. A kiss on the cheek that barely touches. Much like the continental kiss on both cheeks, but just do it on one, other wise you look pretentious, since you are not continental


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    metrovelvet wrote: »
    Where are you meeting? No hugs. A kiss on the cheek that barely touches. Much like the continental kiss on both cheeks, but just do it on one, other wise you look pretentious, since you are not continental


    We are meeting in the city centre. If I were just being me, i would not have any contact at all, but i dont want to seem to cold or shy...


  • #4
    minidazzler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,739 ✭✭✭✭minidazzler


    It really depends on how you know them and how WELL you know them.

    If it's a first date, blind date, set up by friends tthen go for a handshake.

    If you met them online and have been talking to them for a while now and know them a bit, then handshake and VERY light kiss on the cheek.

    That's how I play it anyway.


  • #5
    Rafael Lemon Ringleader
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    I'd stick with the handshake, as kissing on the cheek isn't really the norm here with strangers.


  • #6
    dny123456
    Closed Accounts Posts: 431 ✭✭dny123456


    minidazzler wrote: »
    If it's a first date, blind date, set up by friends tthen go for a handshake.

    To be honest, if after a date, someone tried to give me a handshake, I would take it as a PFO. Quick kiss on the lips, at a minimum. If you like them a little more, you could stretch to a normal kiss.


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  • #7
    minidazzler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,739 ✭✭✭✭minidazzler


    dny123456 wrote: »
    To be honest, if after a date, someone tried to give me a handshake, I would take it as a PFO. Quick kiss on the lips, at a minimum. If you like them a little more, you could stretch to a normal kiss.

    Yeah, but he was on about the GREETING!!! lol.


  • #8
    dny123456
    Closed Accounts Posts: 431 ✭✭dny123456


    minidazzler wrote: »
    Yeah, but he was on about the GREETING!!! lol.
    Lol, ooops, you're right. Handshake/fake kiss/how's she cutting nod.... will all suffice.


  • #9
    Snowie
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    some girls will give you a hug other will kiss you on the cheack and others dont want there personal space invaded....

    depeends.


  • #10
    Rafael Lemon Ringleader
    Posts: 0 ✭ Rafael Lemon Ringleader


    dny123456 wrote: »
    To be honest, if after a date, someone tried to give me a handshake, I would take it as a PFO. Quick kiss on the lips, at a minimum. If you like them a little more, you could stretch to a normal kiss.

    Personally, I'd find a quick kiss on the lips a bit odd. I'd expect either a kiss on the cheek, or a full blown snog if it had gone very well. Kiss on the lips with no tongues seems a bit strange! Reminds me of kissing my parents goodnight :o


  • #11
    abceire
    Closed Accounts Posts: 734 ✭✭✭abceire


    [quote=[Deleted User];62686824]Personally, I'd find a quick kiss on the lips a bit odd. I'd expect either a kiss on the cheek, or a full blown snog if it had gone very well. Kiss on the lips with no tongues seems a bit strange! Reminds me of kissing my parents goodnight :o[/quote]
    no tongues kissing is weird, not sure why you d think that
    Post edited by Boards.ie: Mike on


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  • #12
    Rafael Lemon Ringleader
    Posts: 0 ✭ Rafael Lemon Ringleader


    abceire wrote: »
    no tongues kissing is weird, not sure why you d think that

    Well, as a goodbye to a date? Just seems a bit weird to me. Maybe it isn't.


  • #13
    Special K
    Closed Accounts Posts: 253 ✭✭Special K


    I don't think it necessarily weird to not kiss with tongues - I often use little/no tongue when kissing as I find it far more sensual.

    op, on meeting your date for the first time, I'd go for a quick peck on the cheek. It's what my bf did when I met him for the first time & it had me glowing!! :)


  • #14
    Monkey61
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,137 ✭✭✭Monkey61


    Tricky one. It really depends on who this person is and how much contact you have been in with them. How much of a stranger are they?

    With people I have met online, it really has varied from person to person. I would have no problem going for a hug, but some people can be funny about things like that. I would greet them with a massive smile, (so there can be no mistaking you for being cold and stand-offish) a wave, a very cheery hello and just start talking. Again that would be for people that I haven't really had much contact with at all. If it was someone who I had been exchanging long emails with for a while, a hug might be more appropriate.

    The thing is, if you are a person that normally does hugs when you greet people, then go for it if you like. It won't seem forced. If you aren't, it might just come across as awkward. As long as you seem confident in whatever greeting you are giving it will be fine. And if someone goes off you because you hugged them/kissed them on the cheek and they didn't like that, then they are probably not the kind of person you want to pursue a relationship with.


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