What can I do?

jenggg

Hi! I wondering if anyone else feels like me! I am 30 year old female and find it really hard to let myself get close to guys. I haven't really gone out with anyone for very long and now have gotten to the stage of nearly being afraid to get into anything with anyone. I have met guys recently who have been interested in me and did all the right things but I had zero interest in them.

But then I meet guys who are either going out with people, players, too young and I am mad about them! I tell myself I don't fancy the guys who are interested and I really don't think I do. But it's beginning to make me question myself...do I definitely feel no connection with them or am I just holding back for some reason? I mean, I think I know when I have a spark/attraction for someone but why aren't any of the interested ones giving me this?? Thanks for any advice/similar stories (because I feel a bit of a freak now at this stage!)

minidazzler

You will know if you are attracted to someone.

While I agree you should stay clear of players and people in relationships. What makes someone too young?

What are you actually looking for in a relationship right now? Marriage, kids and all that? If you are looking for just someone to date and whatnot then don't be afraid to go for young guys.

What do you consider to be "too young"?

Is it a moral objection or is it that you think other people might talk?

The guys interested in you aren't giving you the spark as you call it, because you are not interested in them. There is no way to force that.

jenggg

Yeah I wouldn't be against younger guys at all but I guess I would like to settle down and I don't know many 25 year old guys who are ready for that yet so I guess I kinda rule them out! Thanks for your reply!