dunno what the story is....

vixie · 22-10-2009 9:09pm #1

Hey all, I wonder if anyone could shed some light on this for me. I have a friend/acquaintance/guy mate who I see out every weekend. A couple of weeks ago we shared a taxi together and before he got out he kissed me quite passionately and left me hanging. Now we dont have each others number or anything, but last weekend before I got into cab he grabbed me a kissed me again. So I said to him why did he leave it so late etc (ie. just before I left). He said with a glint in his eye and a bold smile "coz im a bastard" and walked away. Now he's a great guy and we get on really well but I dunno where I stand. Does he like me and is laying some ground work OR and im guessing he's chancing his arm.

Anyone any ideas????:o

minidazzler · 22-10-2009 9:15pm

I think he is laying the ground work to have you chase him.

Sounds like it could work well in his favour actually.

vixie · 22-10-2009 9:18pm

Hey thanks for the reply Minidazzler... i dunno about it working in his favour as if he tries it again im gonna turn my head coz i'd hate for him to think it cool to just kiss me without actually saying anything to me about it!

22-10-2009 9:20pm

Always believe a guy when he tells you he is a bastard.
If he respected you as a friend and woman, he wouldn't play games like that.

minidazzler · 22-10-2009 9:23pm

See in his mind you are responding to the kisses, which it sounds like you are, so you probably have some sort of attraction.

He is teasing a little I think, hoping you take the bait and chase him.

It's solid and it's innocent IMO.

If you like him, play the game, it could be fun if you are into it as well and dodge his kisses, turn your cheek to be kissed instead of your mouth.

People say playing games are for immature children, I disagree, it can be alot of fun, intense and very erotic when both know ye fancy each other but ye beat around the bush for a while.

But, that's just me.

Do you actually like him?

vixie · 22-10-2009 9:27pm

Thanks Moonbaby- youve just typed what I was really thinking. Maybe your right Minidazzler tho... ill see how things pan out. Ya see, ive known him years but through mutual friends etc. Ive never seen him trying it on with another girl ever so I dunno if thats just his way. Yeah I like him, he's funny and cute and a good guy as far as I can tell.

Ill not make any decisions about the situation til I see him again and see what happens I suppose.

ash23 · 22-10-2009 9:29pm

I would be very put off by the "I'm a bastard" line, especially as he then walked away. Personally I would think that he just enjoys the power of knowing you like him, that he can kiss you, ignore you (i.e. not get your number) and then, when he sees you again, just snog you and walk off.

I wouldn't be up for that messing around to be honest. But then my mates reckon I'm a cynic so I tend to be on the "he's a baxtard" track. :rolleyes:

minidazzler · 22-10-2009 9:30pm

vixie wrote: »

Thanks Moonbaby- youve just typed what I was really thinking. Maybe your right Minidazzler tho... ill see how things pan out. Ya see, ive known him years but through mutual friends etc. Ive never seen him trying it on with another girl ever so I dunno if thats just his way. Yeah I like him, he's funny and cute and a good guy as far as I can tell.

Ill not make any decisions about the situation til I see him again and see what happens I suppose.

Well you know my advice, play along a bit, but not too long, if he can't knuckle down and get your number/ask you out after a reasonable amount of time. Call him out on it, see where he stands.

vixie · 22-10-2009 9:32pm

The most ridiculous thing bout it tho, is that ive always got on with him but not really fancied him til he kissed me...which was a huge surprise!

I dont think he would have thought I fancied him either as I dont remember ever flirting outrageously with him , or any sort really

minidazzler · 22-10-2009 9:35pm

vixie wrote: »

The most ridiculous thing bout it tho, is that ive always got on with him but not really fancied him til he kissed me...which was a huge surprise!

I dont think he would have thought I fancied him either as I dont remember ever flirting outrageously with him , or any sort really

But you kinda fancy him now that he did?

He is playing it cool. I think it's fair you give the guy a chance, the "I'm a bastard" comment is just playful flirting, i've used it a few times. Personally I like this guy, what you describe makes him sound confident without cockyness.

Go for it. Nevermind people saying "he shouldn't play games" and such, games make it exciting.

Would you fancy him if he came straight up to you and said "wanna go on a date?" Your answer is probably no. He has left some mystery so he has become interesting.

opinion guy · 22-10-2009 9:51pm

Hmm I think you should play him at his own game.
Hop on him when he least expects it, get him all steamed up and then leave him hanging. I mean just when he's getting into it, stop, say something like 'you gotta take me out for dinner if you want more', turn on your heel and leave him gagging for more

vixie · 22-10-2009 9:53pm

yeah I deffo fancy him now after the couple of kisses, I did think I did til that happened.

Ill hold on and see what the story is, he's worth the wait I guess- to see if he's not chancing his arm. Nothing ventured eh!!!!!!;)

minidazzler · 22-10-2009 9:58pm

vixie wrote: »

yeah I deffo fancy him now after the couple of kisses, I did think I did til that happened.

Ill hold on and see what the story is, he's worth the wait I guess- to see if he's not chancing his arm. Nothing ventured eh!!!!!!;)

Don't hold on, Opinion guy is totally right, play him at his own game.

It will be easier if you have self restraint, but get his engine running, then back off. He did it to you, show him 2 can play at that game.

I have to say, the guy is good, he has you a bit hooked after 2 kisses. Don't take that as a bad thing, it just means you are onto a smart one who knows how to play his cards!

There will be people who SAY they don't like when guys play games. But alot of these people still Respond to the games we all play. And responces are better indicators than what we say!!!

You know what's going on, for the most part, so you have an advantage over most girls in your situation, you can turn the tables, have fun with it.

vixie · 22-10-2009 10:04pm

Im guessin Opinion Guy (duh!!) and Minidazzler are guys....its great to get other fellas opinions... kinda like your on the same wavelength. Ill give it a go and bring out my inner Vamp when I see him next and see what kinda trouble it gets me in!!!!:D

minidazzler · 22-10-2009 10:06pm

vixie wrote: »

Im guessin Opinion Guy (duh!!) and Minidazzler are guys....its great to get other fellas opinions... kinda like your on the same wavelength. Ill give it a go and bring out my inner Vamp when I see him next and see what kinda trouble it gets me in!!!!:D

Excellent, and yes, I'm a dude:D Go for it, enjoy it, make him pay for leaving you hanging:P

vixie · 22-10-2009 10:10pm

Cheers and thanks everyone for all your helpful comments:)

dunno what the story is....

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