not fully erect

LegacyUser

I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months now,really like him and we have great chemistry but I've noticed that during sex his penis doesn't seem to be fully erect.It's not soft,it's hard enough to have sex and he always comes,so I'm kind of confused.I've never come across this before.I haven't said anything because I don't want to embarrass him and to be honest,part of me is a bit worried that it's because he's not turned on enough! Is this a possibility? He really seems into it at the time and into me in general.I was with someone all through my 20s and I guess this is the first "man" I've been with since,he's 33. Don't suppose age has anything to do with it? Sorry if this sounds silly,it's just a bit confusing as it's not what I've experienced before. My ex would be like a rock as we were about to have sex.
Thanks in advance for any help.

Gyalist

It doesn't mean that he isn't turned on.

Could be to do with age, hormones, smoking, alcohol or many other reasons. When last has he had a complete physical?

Nervous Wreck

not reggd wrote: »

Ipart of me is a bit worried that it's because he's not turned on enough! Is this a possibility?

Could easily be, yep. There are levels of arousal and perhaps you just haven't engaged in enough foreplay before penetration...? It's happened to me before where a gf has said "How come you're not as hard as usual?" and I'll go "More foreplay bebe".... Hope that's not overly graphic. Anyway, dunno if that's specifically your problem like but if it is, the answer is more foreplay/better communication.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Happens to me if I'm not that turned on. Maybe tease him a bit before ya get going

jellyboy

How about not comparing him to ur ex?

LegacyUser

Hi, thanks for the replies. To answer the question re his health, I don't really know if he's been for recent check ups but I can say his lifestyle wouldn't be the best.He works really disruptive shifts, wouldn't drink often but would drink alot when he does I guess and because of the shiftwork,doesn't eat regularly eg gets starving and eats crap or else doesn't eat for hours. I guess what I needed to know was, is it common or not? I don't mean to compare him to my ex but it's my only recent point of reference and before that I was dealing with very young guys who were the opposite end of the spectrum so to speak! So if it's not a health issue,there is the chance that it's a situation that he's not turned on enough? So I don't really know how to tackle this. We're not really at the stage where I feel that I can say it to him. Also, like I said, the chemistry is amazing(I thought!), he often rushes us out of places,restaurants/bars because he's dying to have sex and he always manages to finish the job. It's just something I haven't experienced before!

parker kent

If he has a big penis it may not get as hard as somebody with a smaller one. This is a somewhat frequent occurrence for men with a bigger than average penis. So if he is bigger than your ex, it may be related to that. The earlier answers could also be true but this is another possibility.

opinion guy

hmmm i think you should get him to get checked out by a doctor. could be medical cause. or could be medication side-effect