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Utterly lost when it comes to women...

  • 21-10-2009 7:22pm
    #1
    formula1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 28 ✭


    This has been annoying me recently..
    usually im popular enough, I know afew people, i go out on Saturday night average enough lad
    but when it comes to women ive no idea. im completely at sea when confronted with relationships, texting, pulling women, antics on the dancefloor etc etc,
    i just cant get my head around it all and i usually end up making a fool of myself cos i did something or didn’t do something, because i don’t know what to do.
    most of d lads I know are all "good at it" and im getting a bit sneered for lack of relationships and so on

    any help or tips


    by the way im nearly 19


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  • #2
    lazygal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    First of all, do not worry, you are only 19! Your friends sound a bit immature, being in a relationship is not a mark of maturity, the most immature people I know were all in relationships in their teens, but have not grown up half as much of those of us who had to go it alone.
    As a women, nothing is less attractive than some guy dancing up behind you in a club or engaging in "antics" as you call it-does not work with me, and most of my friends would say the same. I met my current lover at a low-key party when we got talking about politics, something we both have a major interest in, and even had a mini-row before he finally asked for my number!
    My point is not that you need to get into politics, its that you need to find something you are really passionate about and then find a person of the opposite sex to discuss this with...if she's into the same thing so much the better, but you need something that really engages you, because someone who is passionate about something will always be more interesting to a woman than a guy acting the eejit on a dancefloor.
    Also, I have never met a partner in a nightclub. Its not the place to engage in the kind of interaction that might lead somewhere, its a place to have a laugh and meet someone for maybe snog or a shag. Could you and your friends maybe have a party or something less noisy and drunken that heading to pubs and clubs? Hope this helps and does not sound like I'm preaching!


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