Unfamilar Number in Wife's phone

LegacyUser

I came across a number and name of a guy in wife's phone and I felt very uneasy.I took the number down and it from a private No.This guy answered the phone and said his name as per name on phone. I just said I got a missed called from this number and asked him did he work in a certain place where my wife works and he said no.I did not mention my wife of course just the name of the place.I was hoping he did work there as this would explain the name in the phone.
I don't need to hear about you should not be going through her phone etc that is not why I am on here.
So I am thinking of ringing same No from her phone later then hanging up( and say kids where playing with her phone as they always do).I want to then see if she gets a call back or text or something and see how she act's if this happens.
I was also thinking of sending a text from her phone saying something like 'Hi how's it going with you' and again see what happens.
Something does not seem right.
Is there anyway of finding out this guy's full name.
Any other ideas to try and catch her out I can't just come to her with it as she is quick with excuses etc,
Really need help please don't judge me for looking through her phone but believe me I have my reasons.

dudara

What if it's entirely innocuous and all of it blows up in your face?

You state that you have your reasons, but ultimately you need to talk to your wife, not play games and deceptions behind her back.

cruizer101

If you have other reasons then talk to her about these.

But really a random guy on her phone means nothing, I've numbers of people in my phone I haven't been in contact with in years, I'm just not really bothered deleting on the of chance I might want to contact them again.

Don't go sending texts or calling him, that will only lead to trouble in the long run.

shellyboo

Don't sneaK around behind her back, you'll do more harm than good. Just ask her who it is, for god's sake. Surely you can tell when she's lying? Ask her to her face and get your answer.

themadchef

Opinionns wrote: »

This guy answered the phone and said his name as per name on phone.

The only people i know who answer the phone by giving their names are business people! Do you say "insert your real name here" when you answer? I sure as hell don't.

Stop rooting through your wifes phone. If you have questions, be an adult, open your mouth and speak up.

shellyboo

themadchef wrote: »

The only people i know who answer the phone by giving their names are business people! Do you say "insert your real name here" when you answer? I sure as hell don't.

Stop rooting through your wifes phone. If you have questions, be an adult, open your mouth and speak up.

Well, if I don't know the number I answer with my name... and I'm not really a businessperson!

eviltwin

Its probably nothing. I''m sure if your wife was up to something you would have other signs to go on as well. Just ask her about it. I'm sure her reaction will tell you a lot.

LegacyUser

Yeah, I really wouldn't get into the cloak and dagger stuff. It implicates you as well then, and if it all blows up in your face and the guy turn out to be a hairdresser or something, YOU end up being the one who is deceptive.

You have no need for any of that jazz. Just ask her who he is, straight up. Catch her off guard when she's peeling spuds or something and and just say "Who's Joe Bloggs?" and watch her reaction closely.

opinion guy

Opinionns wrote: »

I came across a number and name of a guy in wife's phone and I felt very uneasy.I took the number down and it from a private No.This guy answered the phone and said his name as per name on phone. I just said I got a missed called from this number and asked him did he work in a certain place where my wife works and he said no.I did not mention my wife of course just the name of the place.I was hoping he did work there as this would explain the name in the phone.

So maybe he changed jobs. Maybe hes a friend she hasn't spoken to in years. Maybe he's a business contact outside of her own company. Do you honeslty expect to know everyone of your wifes friends/acquaintances/business contacts.

I don't need to hear about you should not be going through her phone etc that is not why I am on here.

Um yeah, I'm thinking you do need to hear that.

So I am thinking of ringing same No from her phone later then hanging up( and say kids where playing with her phone as they always do).I want to then see if she gets a call back or text or something and see how she act's if this happens.

Lets say you did get an answer. Then what ? That will just be something else to figure out. This idea is ridiculous and will only make you crazy.

I was also thinking of sending a text from her phone saying something like 'Hi how's it going with you' and again see what happens.

Again stupid idea. U have no idea who he is - you could be messing up your wifes business contacts. You could even be giving the guy the wrong idea with a text like that.

Something does not seem right.

Your approach to all this.

Is there anyway of finding out this guy's full name.

Why ? Who cares ? How would that make anything any better ?

Any other ideas to try and catch her out I can't just come to her with it as she is quick with excuses etc,
Really need help please don't judge me for looking through her phone but believe me I have my reasons.

Ok WOW. Try and catch her, quick with excuses.
You may have your reasons, but really, from what you've told us here you seem to have a very teenage attitude to things. I'm stopping myself from being more negative since you say you have your reasons, but maybe you should focus on those reasons and stop looking for crazy ones ? Because if you follow on the path you are starting down - thats where it will lead - crazy

LegacyUser

Just to say this guy has never been mentioned and certainly have no work connection(100% sure) they have a a phone chat within the last week as per phone records.and his number is in her contact details.
She is not talking to anyone via work or anything like that,and she would not have any males friends outside of work as she has said this many times.
So who could he be it does not add up.

Oryx

You dont need to find out who this guy is. You need to figure out why, inside your head, you think she is cheating on you. You have your reasons, you say. Yeah, its perfectly clear you think she is up to no good. Why is this?

The number on her phone is incidental, and has nothing to do with your problem. So you find out who this guy is. Or your wife looks guilty about it. Or you call from her phone and he answers, hi sexy. (Or instead, it turns out hes the person shes getting your xmas gift from). Then what?

If you have issues in your marriage, deal with them. Dont look on it as espionage where you have to build up evidence and then go Aha! Gotcha! Your marriage is doomed anyway if youre sneaking around doing that. The only way through this is confronting it head on. Talk to your wife, insist on talking if she wont. Air issues on both sides, with the help of a mediator if necessary. It may get ugly, but your op sounds like it is already.

By the way, I have about two dozen mens phone numbers on my phone. I doubt my fella knows who any of them are. Does it mean Im cheating with any or all of them? Does it heck. Remember the same could be true of your wife.

dudara

OP here wrote: »

Just to say this guy has never been mentioned and certainly have no work connection(100% sure) they have a a phone chat within the last week as per phone records.and his number is in her contact details.
She is not talking to anyone via work or anything like that,and she would not have any males friends outside of work as she has said this many times.
So who could he be it does not add up.

Does your wife do anything without you knowing about it? You're coming across as quite possessive.

Sit down and talk to her.

LegacyUser

dudara wrote: »

Does your wife do anything without you knowing about it? You're coming across as quite possessive.

Sit down and talk to her.

She would not think me possessive this please believe, the reason I had checked the phone was that the kids where playing with it and had rang my sis in law, so I checked to see who else they had rang then came across this Number , the time of day the call was made the kids where in school, so not them messing
My wife could easily pick up my phone and ask me about who is this in the contacts etc, no big deal to me as there would only be a couple girls from work that I would have told her about.
I am not possessive but I am really worried that my wife could be cheating on me with this guy,there is no possible reason why his name could be in her phone let alone to ring him.
I do know her friends workmates etc as she does mine.
I am not jealous by nature as I never had reason to be ,but now that all seems to have changed .
Please give me one reason this number is in her phone and why she rang him.I want to believe this was all innocent.

martdalto

Do you regularly go through your wife's phone for new numbers?
Do you regularly sneak around wondering what she is up to?

If she is up to something, and you "have your reasons", then you need to ask her.. if she's "quick with excuses", then tell her you think it's an excuse and you want proof.

If you want to leave her just get on and do it.
If you want to control her and everything she does/everyone she speaks to, then expect HER to wake up some day and realise it, and leave YOU.

I have loads of numbers on my phone, I have loads of "friends" on facebook. My husband knows hardly any of them, and has no interest in knowing them... HE TRUSTS ME!!!!

Either you trust her, or you don't... either way I think your marriage is fcuked.

Oh The Humanity

Maybe its just a tradesperson giving her a quote for something, kids entertainer, my God could be anything.....you are letting your imagination run wild with you.

A phone call in isolation to a person of the opposite sex who's number and name are plainly saved in the phone for all to see is hardly grounds for panic......is there something else ?

You say you have your reasons......?

Snowman123

Google the number.

If he is a tradesperson/hairdresser etc it should come up

If you get his full name you might find him on facebook

Check "sent" messeages on phone/internet history

All of this you may have done. But unless you are willing top ask her straight out, this maybe an option.

e04bf099

I agree with almost everything everyone has said here. I'll just try to simplify it for you.

Imagine these scenarios

1) Your wife is having an affair. You investigate through whatever means and find out the truth. What then? She stays with you out of guilt because you caught her, or maybe she takes the kids to live with this new guy, who is a mature adult and a sufficient male role-model for your children.

2) Your wife was out with a friend and one of her friends asked to call her spouse on your wifes phone (there are a million other ways - I just thought of one at random). Meanwhile you are investigating your wife, she notices and says "this is the last straw - your paranoia and delusion is driving me round the bend - I'm taking the kids and going to stay in my sisters for a while until I get myself sorted." Two/three years later she is living with some guy who is a little less paranoid and childish and the kids don't pick up their Dads negative character traits.

3) You tell her you are feeling very paranoid and would like some assurances as to where you stand in the relationship. You would like to see a councillor or something to see where these feelings are coming from. You both get through these sessions and after a few years you develop a new sense of maturity and trust with your spouse, while your sex-life improves dramatically. You live happily ever after.

4) You tell her you are feeling very paranoid and would like some assurances as to where you stand in the relationship. You would like to see a councillor or something to see where these feelings are coming from. You both get through these sessions and you develop a new sense of maturity and trust with your spouse, while your sex-life improves dramatically. Then you find out she was having an affair from some complete accident of fortune and not from your own devious investigations. So you take the kids in the moral certitude of an adult and not a child and raise them to be honest, authentic and mature human beings.

LegacyUser

e04bf099 wrote: »

I agree with almost everything everyone has said here. I'll just try to simplify it for you.

Imagine these scenarios

1) Your wife is having an affair. You investigate through whatever means and find out the truth. What then? She stays with you out of guilt because you caught her, or maybe she takes the kids to live with this new guy, who is a mature adult and a sufficient male role-model for your children.
I would not want her to stay with me full stop if she is a cheat end off.
I a mature in everyday life but when something likes this comes up there is no training given(that is why I am here not to be slagged off).

2) Your wife was out with a friend and one of her friends asked to call her spouse on your wifes phone (there are a million other ways - I just thought of one at random). Meanwhile you are investigating your wife, she notices and says "this is the last straw - your paranoia and delusion is driving me round the bend - I'm taking the kids and going to stay in my sisters for a while until I get myself sorted." Two/three years later she is living with some guy who is a little less paranoid and childish and the kids don't pick up their Dads negative character traits.
As said before the time of the call she was home alone,there is no last straw as we really do get on most of the time,have same friends etc, go out mostly together as this is what she likes. Trust me I am not paranoia and she would say this to you if you met her.No one else used her phone and put a name in her contacts(just did not happen)

3) You tell her you are feeling very paranoid and would like some assurances as to where you stand in the relationship. You would like to see a councillor or something to see where these feelings are coming from. You both get through these sessions and after a few years you develop a new sense of maturity and trust with your spouse, while your sex-life improves dramatically. You live happily ever after.

4) You tell her you are feeling very paranoid and would like some assurances as to where you stand in the relationship. You would like to see a councillor or something to see where these feelings are coming from. You both get through these sessions and you develop a new sense of maturity and trust with your spouse, while your sex-life improves dramatically. Then you find out she was having an affair from some complete accident of fortune and not from your own devious investigations. So you take the kids in the moral certitude of an adult and not a child and raise them to be honest, authentic and mature human beings.

I have just got a bad feeling the last few weeks, eg a few times her phone rang and she was asleep,in shower I would answer as she would mine,and some hung up it has happened once to often,This has all happened in the last 3 weeks. So up to this I was never paranoia never had cause to. Never went through her phone, emails etc.I have no reason to lie here on boards, I am here because this is causing me so much pain .
All the stuff you said about my kids been better off has no place here, I do appreciate all comments here but I want to stick to the original question,
As I said I have no names in my phone that she would not know off as me with her up to 3 weeks ago.
I think she trust's me so much not to check her phones that maybe she got brazen or something, I want so bad to be wrong.

Beruthiel

OP
I have a ton of names and numbers in my phone that my partner would have no clue about. I'm sure he does too.

If you have a problem with your wife, how is it that you are not coming right out and talking to her about it.
She's your wife, where is the communication?

kenbrady

Beruthiel wrote: »

OP
I have a ton of names and numbers in my phone that my partner would have no clue about. I'm sure he does too.

OP 99% of people see a strange number in there partners phone and think nothing of it.
You instantly jumped to the conclusion she is having an affair.
You also said she is very quick with the excuses.
You obviously have other issues with your wife.
You also seem to think that she is cheating and you just need the proof.

Also affairs take more than one phone call to get started.
You come across as a little bit crazy in the posts and obsessed that your wife is having an affair.

jmbkay

Someone who is having an affair wouldnt have the other persons real name on their phone, or have the number there to be questioned. I know of a guy who has a number he doesnt want his wife to see stored under "suppliers".

Elbi

Someone having an affair would probably not leave their phone lying around or let the kids play it.

petethebrick

Eh, calm down OP. You're coming across as a possesive pyscho.
Have you any reason to think your wife is cheating on you?
If not, then forget about this number you found and chill out.
Seriously, you'll drive yourself demented and cause problems in your relationship if you continue on this road.

TheBlock

Is the issue you can't talk to your wife? Ask her who the person is. Tell her how you came across the number in her phone.

Then decide if you trust her.

Nervous Wreck

Tenner bets it's one of her friend's OHs who she called to get a hold of her friend. Yer bein paro OP.

e04bf099

Sorry for being harsh OP, but sometimes people need a shunt to get out of their circular thought processes.

You need to talk to a friend that knows your wife (but not too much, i.e. is loyal to you). You will get the same reply over and over again on boards from people that don't know your situation. You seem to want help finding out the truth, but nobody can help you here on that because nobody knows your wife and I don't think anybody one feel comfortable giving you advice like that if they thought you could (even if you're right in the end) be suffering from paranoia. That would be seriously negligent.

LegacyUser

A wee piece of advice......forget about this..it is most likely NOTHING..I have destroyed three relationships with paranoia about them going off with others..I have snooped and found out 'damning evidence'..relationship broke up and then thereafter it turned out it was really innocent...
Forget about this .... until you have clear proof that something is going on...dont snoop..just carry on and see what happens..there is little you can do anyhow,..if she is cheating you can do nothing...trust her and forget about this !!

LegacyUser

This is what makes it so easy to cheat. So many people are willing to look for what seems an obvious explanation when quite often your hunch is correct.

Huge amounts of people cheat and your wife might be one of them. Personally I would let it sit for a while and monitor things.

daisybelle2008

Opinionns wrote: »

=Really need help please don't judge me for looking through her phone but believe me I have my reasons.

OP here wrote: »

She would not think me possessive this please believe, the reason I had checked the phone was that the kids where playing with it and had rang my sis in law, so I checked to see who else they had rang then came across this Number , the time of day the call was made the kids where in school, so not them messing

In your first post you said you had your reasons for going through her phone, which implied she had previous form or reasons for your mistrust.

But your next post says you accidentally came upon it. I am not sure what to believe, as you do not give any solid reasons for mistrusting her but yet want to 'catch her out' and have already convicted her.

If you can provide no valid reasons for this mistrust, then you are incredibly paranoid and need to relax before you destroy your marriage.

opinion guy

OP here wrote: »

My wife could easily pick up my phone and ask me about who is this in the contacts etc, no big deal to me as there would only be a couple girls from work that I would have told her about.

Yes, she could. BUT - you didn't ask her did you ?

I am not possessive but I am really worried that my wife could be cheating on me with this guy,there is no possible reason why his name could be in her phone let alone to ring him..........
..........Please give me one reason this number is in her phone and why she rang him.I want to believe this was all innocent.

OMG - there are a MILLION possible reasons for that. Could be tradesman, business contact, friend of a friend who needed a favour, etc etc et

OP here wrote: »

I have just got a bad feeling the last few weeks, eg a few times her phone rang and she was asleep,in shower I would answer as she would mine,and some hung up it has happened once to often,This has all happened in the last 3 weeks.

So - presumably since this guys number is in her phone, then his name would have come up on the phone and clearly from how you are telling the story, it didn;t. Its probably just crank caller. We all get that from time to time. I can think of 2 seperate times where for weeks on end I got lots of calls like this and I never had any idea who it was.

So up to this I was never paranoia never had cause to. Never went through her phone, emails etc.I have no reason to lie here on boards, I am here because this is causing me so much pain .

You've gotten yourself wound up. From what you told us there's no real evidence of anything (unless there is something you are not telling us).

As I said I have no names in my phone that she would not know off as me with her up to 3 weeks ago.

Ok so wait - how do you know that ? Did you check her phone 3 weeks ago ? Before that ? Because that is the only way you coudl really know that.

I think she trust's me so much not to check her phones that maybe she got brazen or something, I want so bad to be wrong.

OR OR OR she has never had any reason to hide it from you in the first place.



Ok OP. Lets take a step back. I think you need to clear your head a little bit. Can I ask you something - is their more you are not telling us. I ask because - we'd like to help you but right now you are conflciting yourself a little bit and that makes it hard to help you. None of us know you so if you want to tell us more you can.

I'm also wondering, have you been stressed out lately ? Anything else going on that's making life hard ?

LegacyUser

opinion guy wrote: »

Yes, she could. BUT - you didn't ask her did you ?

OMG - there are a MILLION possible reasons for that. Could be tradesman, business contact, friend of a friend who needed a favour, etc etc et

So - presumably since this guys number is in her phone, then his name would have come up on the phone and clearly from how you are telling the story, it didn;t. Its probably just crank caller. We all get that from time to time. I can think of 2 seperate times where for weeks on end I got lots of calls like this and I never had any idea who it was.

You've gotten yourself wound up. From what you told us there's no real evidence of anything (unless there is something you are not telling us).

Ok so wait - how do you know that ? Did you check her phone 3 weeks ago ? Before that ? Because that is the only way you coudl really know that.

OR OR OR she has never had any reason to hide it from you in the first place.

Ok OP. Lets take a step back. I think you need to clear your head a little bit. Can I ask you something - is their more you are not telling us. I ask because - we'd like to help you but right now you are conflciting yourself a little bit and that makes it hard to help you. None of us know you so if you want to tell us more you can.

I'm also wondering, have you been stressed out lately ? Anything else going on that's making life hard ?

It seems I was wrong, I was messing with her phone this evening with her as my name would not come p on her phone and I had caller ID on, so I was checking her phone and went to my name where this other name would be close to as both start with same letter,
so casually I asked her who was this,then she said the musician guy I told you about before who's gig I went to with the girls.he gave all the girls his number as I told you before which is true.I also asked where was he from and she said the US which is what that guy sounded from.
I did say earlier that there was a call to this number but I was wrong .
You are right I am really stressed as I lost my job a while back and I feel like my life is going no where fast. I just feel **** for the first time in my life and yes I was paranoia.
She has no idea what has been going on today while she was at work.
I do thanks you and every one here for listening to me today it really helped.
Now I need to sort out my head it is really melting.I am out of work for the first time since I started working 20 yrs ago and I hope it wont be for much longer. I used to be so positive so much it used to annoy everyone,how things have changed.

opinion guy

OP here wrote: »

It seems I was wrong, I was messing with her phone this evening with her as my name would not come p on her phone and I had caller ID on, so I was checking her phone and went to my name where this other name would be close to as both start with same letter,
so casually I asked her who was this,then she said the musician guy I told you about before who's gig I went to with the girls.he gave all the girls his number as I told you before which is true.I also asked where was he from and she said the US which is what that guy sounded from.
I did say earlier that there was a call to this number but I was wrong .
You are right I am really stressed as I lost my job a while back and I feel like my life is going no where fast. I just feel **** for the first time in my life and yes I was paranoia.
She has no idea what has been going on today while she was at work.
I do thanks you and every one here for listening to me today it really helped.
Now I need to sort out my head it is really melting.I am out of work for the first time since I started working 20 yrs ago and I hope it wont be for much longer. I used to be so positive so much it used to annoy everyone,how things have changed.

Thanks for the post OP. Much credit to you for sorting it out so discretely and also for coming on here and telling us about it. I also must say I now feel bad for being hard on you initially so my apologies for that. I'm really glad there's an innocent explanation.

But, it does seem that we may have gotten to the route of the problem. So there's a few things to be said about that. The first thing and I think its important. Can I suggest to you that you go and speak to your GP about this little episode of paranoia ? Not that I think its psychiatric or anything, but it could very easily be a manifestation of the stress you must be feeling after being out of work for so long. Your GP should a) provide a useful ear to listen b) be able to help with stress management and c) point u in direction of other helpful services.

It must indeed be tough to be suddenly out of work after so long in the workforce. How have you changed from your former positive self ? Want to tell us a little bit about how hard its been ? THis could be a good forum for you to vent your frustrations. Mind if I ask - what were you working at ?

jmbkay

Thanks OP. Relax youve had a stressful time over this. I think many of us here guessed there was something else wrong., i.e the work situation. Look around other places on boards, something could come up. Take care.

e04bf099

Thats good to hear. We are all happy for you.

Just one thing. You said that I shouldn't have mentioned your kids. But they are the most important people in this episode. They are the ones that suffer the most because they pick up on paranoia and insecurity in a household. That pick up on the subtle tension and unconscious intimation and these episodes help to form their personalities. So, although you have worked this out in terms of the truth of the matter, you may not have worked it out in terms of your responsibilities have in the development of your children's characters. Don't pass on your paranoia to them.

So be aware of them. They are more important than your happiness.

I wouldn't go to your GP though, unless it is just so he can give you the name of a good councillor or something. It isn't really his realm of experties. Even a priest would be better, although I'm not religious so I wouldn't do that myself.

..Summergirl..

Thank goodness you've sorted out everything. Juts have a good rest, and I think you're just overstressed over the work issue and others things.

martdalto

OP here wrote: »

I did say earlier that there was a call to this number but I was wrong .
You are right I am really stressed.....

....She has no idea what has been going on today while she was at work...

...Now I need to sort out my head it is really melting....

OP, I'm glad it all turned out to be nothing, but can I just ask something...?

Did you mistakenly think there was a call to the number, or did you lie on here to embelish your story and "prove" that your wife was up to something.

I ask because, either way it's clear that you are stressed, but if you made it up to try make a point, then it is clear that you are beginning to take your frustrations out on your wife (with or without her knowing). This can only lead to trouble.

You do need to try and sort yourself out - be that speaking to a GP, counsellor, priest, friend - whoever. But don't start turning against your wife. I know it's very common to take out our frustrations on the ones that we are closest too.. but maybe take this as a sign that you need to do something to get yourself sorted out... before you wife DOES actually realise, and then the damage will be much more difficult to repair.

Best wishes to you anyway. And just remember "This, too, shall pass".

LegacyUser

martdalto wrote: »

OP, I'm glad it all turned out to be nothing, but can I just ask something...?

Did you mistakenly think there was a call to the number, or did you lie on here to embelish your story and "prove" that your wife was up to something.

No I was blur eyes looking and really did think I seen it,I also had seen a number that turned out to be my 14 yr old nephew's No .
I will take time out and try put my time to better use.
I look forward to the kids coming home as I spend that time helping with their homework which I love to do. They don't see this side of me which is only there for a small time,I mean it could be weeks and all is good, then maybe just to much thinking when I am alone which is the hardest part.
I am going from been with the lads for 8 hours a day to straight home doing homework then kids to bed watch TV with the wife or we both read a book on the sofa. Now from 9am to 3.30 I am not my own might go shop etc and even a game of golf with a mate .
There is a big void there and when you are on your own you do start thinking stupid things.
But I got a wake up call here and this has made me think better of the situation in general.
I really appreciate all of you guys and girls here on boards.

martdalto

Hiya OP, could you find something else to do during the day? I know paid work is obviously hard to come by, but charities are ALWAYS looking for help.

Someone mentioned at the start of the "downturn" that at times like this charities tend to do very well out of people, as many people find themselves (unfortunately) out of work, they have more time on their hands to be able to do vountary work.

It doesn't even necessarily have to be a charity - it could be your local community centre, anything?? Or maybe take up a new hobby (I've recently decided I'm going to learn the fiddle!!). I know what you mean about the endless sitting around doing nothing, and thinking about everything.. it's never good!!

Fair play to you for coming back to clarify... things will improve soon.

opinion guy

hey Op.

I must say thou - I REALLY think you should speak to your GP about this paranoid episode. Look the reason I asked you how was life otherwise and had you any stress, was because I started to feel like some of the conclusions you were drawing seemed genuinely paranoid and I thought I'd ask you about triggers. Stress can be trigger this kind of altered thinking in some people. Now this could be a once off stress reaction or a part of something more. I'm suggesting you see a GP because he can properly evaluate that and sometimes catching these things means you can stop them before they become bigger problems. Hmmm - OP reread your initial post. You were planning to try and "catch out" your wife - in the end it was nothing. Is that normally you ? Were you thinking straight ? No ? OP this is why I'm saying go see your GP.

Anyhow I don't mean to worry you - not at all. Just think it would be good to speak with a professional about it. He or she will know more than us internet-folks:)

I think the finding better ways than thinking to fill your time is a good idea. Charity work sounds like a great idea - something to get stuck into would be great I'd say.

Good luck OP

..Summergirl..

I think this days especially like what is happening around us (!!) anybody can be paranoid. I saw so many people in my life who mistaken wrong numbers and then treated case as suspicious. But this is not the case to run immediately to GP and claim that you're suffering from paranoia . If it became VERY often! then from there you can be thinking to visit your GP .

LegacyUser

..Summergirl.. wrote: »

I think this days especially like what is happening around us (!!) anybody can be paranoid. I saw so many people in my life who mistaken wrong numbers and then treated case as suspicious. But this is not the case to run immediately to GP and claim that you're suffering from paranoia . If it became VERY often! then from there you can be thinking to visit your GP .

I will take your advice Summergirl, this I think was a once off as it has never happened before,just everything got on top of me it happens.So will not go to GP but will keep it in mind should I feel the same way again.

..Summergirl..

Hi Op, this things doesn't have to worry you that much! You came here to seek advise and it's +1 for you. Lots of people stated here their opinion! For me, you don't look like you're really paranoid! Well, I can judge you from reading only your posts, but still. I saw really PARANOID people, who is very close to my family, and I know how people who is suffering from paranoia look like. If someone will claim here that they never went true same experience as you did, then I can say 99% that it is not a thrught. Why? Because we are all human. It happened to me in a few occasions as well, I'm also paranoid? It happens usually when there is no more trust in a family. Try to think why you're are not trusting your woman fully? Did she give you a ground to distrust her? Or someone told you something about her? Just think over it again. And remember, if you're not trusting your woman fully (!!) Then, those things will be happening again and again.

I wish you very best in your relationship.