Age Difference

LegacyUser

Can a relationship work out if there is a 3 year age gap, one person is in final year of college and one person is graduated and working a few years. Of course the age difference itself doesn't matter if you are both comfortable with it but it is more the life stage difference that i'm wondering if it can work.

Has anyone been through a similar situation and it worked/didn't work out? It's just i've been through this before with someone else (in the past) and it didn't work out mainly because we were wanting/doing different things and we were i guess at different stages in our life.

Colonel_McCoy

No difference at all. I know people with bigger age difference (7 years) one in college and the other working. It doesnt bother them.

LegacyUser

3 years is nothin!! Shouldn't even be an issue!!

shellyboo

3 years is nothing. It's not even a vague issue, as long as you're both legal.

eviltwin

3 years is nothing. There is 5 years between me and my husband, we started dating when I was in my first year in college and its never been an issue.

Pocket Pillager

When the bf and I first met he was a few months into his first year of colleage and I had graduated, working full time a good few months with two months of working travel in between. We'll be together 4 years in February (there 3.5 years between us).

Of course there were many different transitionary stages where we had to adjust to a new type of relationship. I moved out of home, sharing with strangers, when we were together a few months, he graduated and got a full time job, we moved in together in March.

I was ready to move in together a long time before he was, but due to the difference in where we both were in our lives I understood that I needed to give him more time. If he proposed to me in the morning I would happily accept, but I know that he is not ready for that (what 22 year old in their right mind would?:P I know I wasn't ready for all that at that stage).

So long as you exercise a bit of patience and understanding, and maybe put yourself in the same mindset that you were in at that age, you'll be grand

LegacyUser

Thanks guys, i appreciate the advice. I do agree and to be honest i don't have an issue with the three years it was more the life stage difference really. The only thing that maybe has me thinking about the 3 years is i have a younger sister around her age. She is 20 and i'm 23 by the way. Guess i was also kind of thinking, is it ok to go out with someone who is the same age as your younger sister?

shellyboo

Um, yes. What if you had a twin, would you not date people your own age? Seriously... age doesn't matter. 23 and 20 is perfectly fine, it's the most normal of all normality.

hellojello

seems fine to me!:)

dirtydress

Wondering09 wrote: »

Thanks guys, i appreciate the advice. I do agree and to be honest i don't have an issue with the three years it was more the life stage difference really. The only thing that maybe has me thinking about the 3 years is i have a younger sister around her age. She is 20 and i'm 23 by the way. Guess i was also kind of thinking, is it ok to go out with someone who is the same age as your younger sister?

My younger brother is 21 and going out with a girl who is 25 and im 23 so she's 2 years older than his older sister and it doesnt make a difference to them. Just go for it, be happy and dont worry about things