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CBT and life changes

  • 19-10-2009 9:37am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    i am just feeling the need to get some things off my chest and to look for a bit of advice. Firstly i've been quite successful career wise, i love what i do, however that will all change in the next couple of months as the contract is ending (fair enough its a recession). But I am just scared i'll end up with no job as what i do is quite specific etc. Anyway i will have to prepare for that regardless.

    The other thing is that I am coming to a bit of a cross roads - sounds like a cliche I know, I am mad about my boyfriend, and he really is great in many respects, however we are both quite committed to our jobs - me more so in that I want to get the job done well so will work a lot of hours overtime, him in that he is basically a workaholic - and loves that scenario. However when we do get time together it feels like we a just checking in with each other, going to pubs, the cinema, dinner and is starting to feel very much like ground hog day - has anyone seen that movie?! I want things to change but am not sure he is able to (considering his work ethic, and I mine too I suppose).

    The other thing is that while my friends tell me I am a lot of fun, witty and very loyal. I am also desperately shy which I seem to spend a lot of my time trying to hide. I even get shy and anxious around my bf which is ridiculous. As a result of shyness I tend to avoid as many social situations as I can which of course doesnt help with making friends and keeping the ones I already have!

    Basically what i want to do now is to genuinely increase my self esteem/confidence, I want to make new and interesting friends, I want to be self assured, I don't want to wander through life and look back with huge regrets. I want to keep my relationship with my bf healthy and not give up on it. But I dont know how to do all of these things on my own (I have tried in the past ,as well as visiting a counsellor etc).

    Does anyone know of a genuinely good CBT practitioner in the dublin area who can help me make these changes? thanks for your advice


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  • #2
    Fiend-Foe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 481 ✭✭Fiend-Foe


    Speak to your GP and they'll refer you. I'm not sure if you can see one without a referal.

    Best of luck with it, I hope you get the results you're looking for!


  • #3
    ,mnb
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 142 ✭✭,mnb


    Try reading "CBT for dummies". I found this an amazing book.


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