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Moving out of the city...

  • 18-10-2009 9:57pm
    #1
    Seoige
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    I'm considering moving to be with my long term boyfriend who moved home recently (midlands) for work reasons.

    I'm just hoping to get the experiences / advice of anyone has moved out of a city where they grew up and moved to a small village!

    Thanks!


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi OP,

    Myself and my BF are planning to move to the country next year and we are both city slickers from Dublin and we want to move to Conemara which is quite rural!

    We made the decision because we like a quiet life and we are both home birds and thought that when we had a family raring them in space and bigger house would be perfect for us, we have no doubts about it but it was something we both grew to wanting.

    Is there any harm in moving there with your BF and seeing how it works out can you then move back if it does not.

    What are you most concerned about?


  • #3
    Gregor Samsa
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,138 ✭✭✭Gregor Samsa


    I was born and raised in Dublin and moved to Co. Clare a number of years ago, as my girlfriend had moved there for work reasons a couple of years prior. The time was right for us to move in together, and as she had a good job, and I had just finished up a postgraduate course in Dublin, it made sense for me to move down to her. The long distance relationship went well, but neither of us wanted to keep it up like that forever, and it made more sense for me to move at the time than for her.

    I have to say, it was much easier than I thought it would be. We had been travelling to each other every second weekend for over 2 years, so then the move finally came, it was more like I just went to see her for the weekend and never went back to Dublin. It took me a while to find a job in my profession, but when I did it was better than I would have got in Dublin.

    I certainly missed my friends and family, but as things turned out, most of my friends ended up moving out of the city anyway, so even if I had stayed in Dublin, they wouldn't have been around the way they were. We still all keep in contact, and visit each other and meet up when we can.

    One thing that was difficult was when my mother got sick and then died last year. It was very tough being on the other side of the country while that was going on.

    I miss a lot about Dublin - particularly gigs and decent cinemas - but if I moved back , I'd miss a lot about Clare - particularly the outdoors. Also, we've been able to afford a much better house here than we ever could have in Dublin, for much less money, so we're not shackled by excessive debt. Overall, I think my quality of life has improved since I moved, and I have no real desire to move back. Not that I don't like Dublin, just that I'm happy where I am.

    The biggest change it made to me personally was that I had to learn to drive. In 32 years in Dublin, I never once considered getting a car, because I never needed one. It quickly became apparent that a car was absolutely essential over here.

    Overall, it think it's down to wanting to be with my partner (and since last year, our daughter). We could be in Dublin, Clare or Mongolia, and it wouldn't make much odds to me.


  • #4
    CeNedra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 157 ✭✭CeNedra


    Hi,

    My husband moved down from Dublin to midlands a few years ago. At the time we were engaged, but he was living in Dublin and in debt and I was down in the sticks, where I grew up, and financially much better off.
    My husband got a job first, then moved down. All debts were cleared off so quickly and we saved like crazy to get married and did so without any debt. The reason I am saying this is that it was just so much cheaper where we live now and pooling resources.

    The positives are that it is usually cheaper in the sticks.
    We have kids now and the family support is great from my side.
    He is very good friends with my family and their partners and has fit in so well here.
    He is the type that will get out there and try things if needed to meet people.
    He has his regular nights out in Dublin with the gang there.

    The Cons:
    Man I miss those weekends in Dublin, hanging around the city, doing a bit of shopping, going to cool bars and restaurants and clubs and gigs. Things are so much more limited here.

    We were getting married and getting into the kids thing anyway, so our weekends of having the high life in Dublin was going to come to an end one way or another. The quality of our life has improved so much, we often talk about it and wouldn't change it for anything.

    Best of luck. I hope this helped.


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