Girlfriend annoying me big time

LegacyUser

ok first off my girlfriend of nearly 2 years . im 21 shes nearly 22 started saying that she wants to move out . we both live with our parent and live in fairly crowded houses i live with 7 others and she lives with 8 others both in 3 bedroom houses . so we started looking at places and viewed 2 or 3 then last week one of her sisters said she she would move in with us. no problem less rent . so they pick out a house about 15 doors away from where they live. i live about half an hour away. so they decided to go an view it yesterday without telling me . now want me to give them 300 euro as a deposit even though i haven't seen it but would rather see it before i pass on any money. not too sure if i even want to move out as i have no job neither has she but we will be paying the same amount as we do in our parent's houses.

well last night i decided to have a few drinks with my mates and she stayed in , turns out a big family row in her family's house . her ma ringing me at 6 this morning which i didnt know until i woke up . rang the girlfriend to see what was up and says it was a row in the house (not much information i know) she says she's too tired of telling everyone about it so she'll tell me later. so was talking to her earlier mainly about will you have 300 euro deposit . no well i dont think i will. anyway what happened last night . id rather not say says her . ok but you tell all your mates but not your boyfriend ?? yeah so .

well i taught id be the first she would talk to about it but no. everything she is talking about is moving into this house which she viewed yesterday . she has just been in a bad mood the last couple of weeks not telling me stuff which she should or barley talking to me at all . which is putting me into a bad mood . when i say whats wrong with you? noting why(in a bad mood)

dont know how to approach her really . any advice ?

Chinafoot

annoyed BF wrote: »

not too sure if i even want to move out as i have no job neither has she but we will be paying the same amount as we do in our parent's houses.

You need to tell her this. It sounds like she may have an inkling that you're not 100% on the idea which is why shes focusing solely on this. I don't blame you at all for being annoyed about them agreeing on a house without you seeing it. Very unfair and you should tell her that too.

annoyed BF wrote: »

well i taught id be the first she would talk to about it but no. everything she is talking about is moving into this house which she viewed yesterday . she has just been in a bad mood the last couple of weeks not telling me stuff which she should or barley talking to me at all . which is putting me into a bad mood . when i say whats wrong with you? noting why(in a bad mood)

dont know how to approach her really . any advice ?

Have the last couple of weeks of bad moods been after you both agreed to move in together? Maybe its just all the crap at home. Massive row and her mother ringing you at 6am sounds a bit on the messed up side. She might be very, very eager to get out of there and might feel that her escape is threatened but your uncertainty.

You need to talk to her..face to face, not on the phone. Tell her want to look at places together as it's supposed to be a home for both of you. If you really don't want to move out though, tell her soon so herself and her sister can make alternative arrangements.

mood

It sounds like the two of you want to leave home but this should not be why you move in together. Maybe both of you should rent a room in different houses and move in together in the future.

barr toco

hi op, think about this first do you really want to move in with this girl,
sounds like shes talking full control and thats not fair, and her mother ringing you at 6 in the morning, sounds like that was about the whole moving issue, id be very warry of moving in